You see am one of those women who believe its almost impossible for a man to lavish gifts and favors on a lady without other motives. I met this guy in 2006 through a friend and we got really close, he was SUPER rich, funny, lively, great height, not so handsome (even though he believed he was Denzel), and EXTRA SUPER ARROGANT. This guy spoilt me well, I mean in a way no man had prior to meeting him. We continued to be just friends until I found out he was married with 2 daughters, I started to look at him in a funny light like how could he not have told me he was married.
To cut a long story short, I went for NYSC and he offered to get me a car, at that point I had to ask him what he wanted and he gave it to me out rightly…
”Nonye are you okay? I send my driver to pick you up, get out of meetings to take your calls, step out of my bedroom to talk to you, send you tickets when you need to travel, gave you someone’s two months’ salary to go to NYSC camp with and you open your mouth to ask me what I want! ok, I want to be your brother! This girl you be pikin? Look ,I like you too much to want to get upset with you right now , so pls don’t let me’’.
I don’t know if I captured everything he said but anyways my mouth hung open until he finished. I just told him I needed to clear my head and he hung up immediately. I cried and cried that day, prayed my heart out and sent him a message that I couldn’t be who he wanted me to be to him. He replied and said we’ll see in heaven. For days I walked around like a moron, and of course everyone came with their opinions, some said God will forever be proud of me, others said I shoulda let the guy take good care of me…. I simply missed my friend.
In August 2009, some random guy started a chat with me on facebook and very very unlike me, I responded though reluctantly. After a few chats I started relaxing more with him, I didn’t waste time in asking his marital status and he didn’t lie. He was married with 3 kids, he even went ahead to send me their photos and told me how much he loved his wife and didn’t want ‘anything’ from me. I found it really weird and kept asking why he would chat with a stranger on facebook and he always just insisted that he didn’t want anything from me. We continued to talk and I started to believe and trust him. When he came down to Nigeria, he insisted that I come to see him with my fiancé as he wouldn’t have it any other way. We have continued to be friends and sometimes I forget that we’re not biologically related, he told my hubby that I’m his adopted sister and I call him my adopted uncle (he’s much older). He has been there for me spiritually and otherwise, I cannot mention the things he has done for me here out of respect for both him and my husband but I can say that there are very few men like this and even though I still believe that most men wont just do things for a lady without wanting something back, I must say that this one is a rare kind. He may not have given me as much material things as the other guy but he is the real friend I lost and has definitely given more!