Friday, October 5, 2012

Rejected or Unappreciated??



Which is worse, rejection or not being appreciated?

You get a job, throw yourself into it, work your a** off and your efforts slide through unnoticed. Or maybe noticed but so what? who gives a hoot? At the end of the day someone else may even get the praise for something you worked so hard to make happen.  Another scenerio, you're the one who makes all the effort to grease this friendship, you make the calls, visits etc and the friend feels its okay for you to be the one doing all that, or maybe they don't even notice your efforts. Now the most painful one, you get in a relationship or marriage, pour yourself into it, do everything to make your spouse happy, play roles that should not necessarily be yours to play and you do this happily but this spouse barely notices or feels its your duty. You have a new hair cut, your spouse is the last to notice, you shed that birth weight, everyone else commends you but your husband is the last to notice! Sucks right? yeah sucks!

Here's what:  People will not always appreciate the things you do, people will not always accept you, but if you choose to sacrifice, make sure its for a worthy cause. For some people the reason they sacrifice may be their children, long term career goal or whatever. But whatever you do, make sure the sacrifices your make are for a worthy cause. There's a very thin line between sacrificing and compromising your own self and standard. Bosses will not always say well done, but if you're going to bear the pains and keep working anyways, make sure you have a very clear big picture. That way the feeling of not being appreciated becomes really little.

On my earlier question, I'll rather be rejected than not be appreciated. Its better you reject me from the start, than bring me in and make an idiot of me and rubbish whatever efforts I make to keep things going.


I know this isn't my usual style of talk but hey TGIF Ya'all!!

7 comments:

  1. I'll be rejected too. for someone not to appreciate yhu brings a feeling of worthlessness.

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  2. hmmm nono who is vexing you?

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  3. My dear this is a nice piece, i too will rather be rejected than not being appreciated.

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  4. Totally agree! Have a great weekend dear.

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  5. So who's ass am I kicking? Lol

    I tend to do stuff because I enjoy them not for the recognition. If I don't get appreciated, I don't stress which works for me but I understand that if you don't demand it sometimes, you might get treated like crap which isn't a good feeling at all.

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  6. not being appreciation in a rship is worst cuz you will never be good enough for that person so while be with that person, as for work,if i dnt get appreciated,to some extent, while am doing it for myself building, time will come when i will just walk away to where i will be appreciated lol,and as for daily interaction, if nt appreciated for my good deal(do good but don't be misused), i believe i am sowing a seed for future harvest and at least i am doing it for my conscience, as for rejection, everybody can not like u, so i really don't mind!! guess it depends.....lol B

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  7. not being appreciated* in a rship is worst cuz you will never be good enough for that person so while be with that person, as for work,if i dnt get appreciated,to some extent, while am doing it for myself building, time will come when i will just walk away to where i will be appreciated lol,and as for daily interaction, if nt appreciated for my good deal(do good but don't be misused), i believe i am sowing a seed for future harvest and at least i am doing it for my conscience, as for rejection, everybody can not like u, so i really don't mind!! guess it depends.....lol B

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