Life and Me Unedited....

Is Masturbation a Sin or Not??

2012-02-24T02:11:00.004-08:00

A few weeks back, My friend Mma and I were discussing the masturbation issue and even though I didn't have any scriptural back up, I was of the opinion that its something wrong. My reason was the simple fact that people who masturbate admit to feeling guilty after the act, besides masturbation is a product of lust which is clearly wrong before God. Just this morning, Mma brought my attention to something interesting, a man of God said Mastubation is not wrong before God as it is something done with your body...hmmm so what about fornication? Isnt it also done with your body? did God not condemn it? Anyways after some extensive research, Mma sent me a mail with the write up below:

"Everything is permissible for me"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"—but I will not be mastered by anything. (1 Corinthians 6:12, NIV) i learnt a lot by researching this topic and this verse especially as pertaining to our last topic masturbation. truth is that sin starts in the mind. that act itself is nothing but a culmination of a complex thoughts that began in ur soul. so the question is when u engage in the act, can u honestly say that thoughts leading up to the act were altogether pure?

Well of course we will never know other than what the person tells us. but God knows all things, that's why GOD is the only righteous judge. this act is one thing that some of us have engaged in the past and may still be engaged in , and i know from experience that more often that not its our way of living out fantasies that we cherish in our minds. and that the thoughts leading up to it are hardly pure and just . Truth is i haven't seen anybody with a complex word of God in his mind who engages in it and comes out not feeling somewhat guilty of some perversion or the other. its proof that the word complex in ur heart abhors the act, ur conscience does the same. and if that is true, then its wrong. Conscience helps u make distinctions if u gave the right to, it trains ur appetites and desires, but if in the past u listened to it less and less, then it will speak to u less and less until it becomes redundant with regard to keeping u in check and within bounds"

Pls if you are a Muslim or of any other religion (with belief in God as supreme). I'd love to know what your take is on this.

GboGbo Big Weddings!!!

2012-02-01T08:08:00.000-08:00

I have learnt in life that somethings come first, somethings are important but other things are even more important.

I see a lot of young people getting married these days and I'm quick to advise " plan within your means o, you would never have the best or worst wedding"...some listen, others dont. Priorities are soooo misplaced especially in this our Eko Lasgidi! You see couples buying rings of 250 - 300k before wedding and yet they have no accommodation!Cake stand will reach heaven as if cake dey finish for the world the next day, food sef go brekete so tey guests are asked to go home and bring food warmers and plastic bowls! weddings are now fanfares and carnivals...Months after, couple still dey try recover from debt! and all the people wey chop belleful, clean mouth have moved on with their lives and are getting set for the next big wedding. Your own is no longer news!
Personally, I had a very small and unique wedding for two reasons:
1. I wanted a kind of reception where I could mingle with every single one of my guests

2. I DID NOT WANT TO BORROW SHIISHII FROM ANYBODY to do wedding!
So my hubby and I looked at our finances and brought out the amount we could spare and every single thing we did was within that budget and we had change to survive afterwards. Interestingly, a week before my traditional wedding, my dad visited and asked to know where my hubby lived. I told him he shared a place with his friend who had just gotten married and was going to leave the apartment for us, but on another thought we decided to move too and were still in the process of getting a place. I asked my dad why he wanted to know and he said something very interesting " Baby look, I dont care if this young man weds you with a wooden or knitted ring, I dont care what kind of suit he wears on your wedding day but I do care that you both have where to lay your heads after the wedding. Food and shelter are very basic and I need to know that you have those in place before I leave". When he was done speaking, I remembered my mum, cos she would have said exactly the same thing. Today, I'm the kind of woman who would rather wear a 2,500 top and 5k shoes and have 500k in my account for the rainy day than wear 30k shoes and have 100k in my account. Let me carry aba made bag but pls give me the best healthcare and I'll pay for it!... Go on and yab me, its allowed!!!

I'm NOT at all against big weddings if you can afford it, but why go out of your way to do something that will have an adverse effect on you just to please some non relevant person??
My question to the gbo gbo big 'wedders' is : "Who exactly are you trying to impress? how do they contribute to your well-being? are you even sure they notice the money and efforts you put in trying to impress them?"

Indeed wisdom is profitable to direct!

Errrr... Happy New Year!

2012-01-27T05:05:00.000-08:00

Happy new year everyone! (*hides*)..... I've missed blogging o! anyways lest not even go there.... So how did you spend your holidays? I had a great time! Unfortunately I didnt take photos.

Ok so I'll be back fully next week with some very hot hot topics that have been on my mind...I look forward to reading your thoughts after the posts.

Have a lovely weekend!

*special toast to my blog bestie Honeydame, Myne, and Sisi Yemmie (shakara woman)* You three motivated me the most on blogville last year...a host of others did but you came tops! kudos!

Merry Christmas!!!

2011-12-16T04:13:00.000-08:00

So this might be my last post for 2011....not sure yet but given the activities I have lined up, I doubt I'll have time to blog except of course I have to do so using my phone (which I find very tedious). Boy! am I ready to rumble????!! you bet I am!! I would be traveling to two states and I look forward to each trip and pray God for joiurney mercies all through.

In preparation for January 2012, I have gone shopping and stocked my home with enough food to last us two months sef, you know as January dey be, long and dry....I will also leave some money aside in my account lest I come back to Lagos broke! Abeg if you haven't set aside January money, do sooooo! cos nobody dey get money to lend anybody o!

Oya na, have a very beautiful Christmas holidays sweethearts and don't forget the reason for the season remains Christ!!! Pls don't over indulge, don't drink and drive....keep the Holy Spirit close!! Happy New Year in advance! Luv you all!

One Year After.....

2011-12-02T04:15:00.000-08:00

So it was my one year wedding anniversary last Sunday and I had so much planned for the day but things came in between. I had to see my sister-in law in school to drop off something and it was quite a trip, got ill on the way and back home I felt crazy! Basically hubby and I could only get lunch together and both slept thru the afternoon. In the evening he got a gift from me in kind and by the next morning he reciprocated with a beautiful black Marc Jacobs bag.

Below are a few lessons marriage has taught me:

1. Don't talk about everything you see or hear

2. Never ever compare your marriage with another's. You have no clue what goes on in other people's homes.

3. Each marriage has its own template. Do not edit another person's own, create yours.

4. When it comes to in-laws, allow wisdom to truly be profitable to direct

5. Pray for your spouse!

6. Secrets can kill a marriage

7. Money and Sex are two primary reasons couples divorce!!

8. Never let an issue linger longer than it should. Give the devil no room!

9. Respect your spouse

10. Be accountable to one another.

I know there are surely many more lessons to learn and I pray to God to help me not miss a thing!

Happy anniversary to Muse and I!

This Post is Rated 18!

2011-11-22T06:27:00.000-08:00

I was chatting with my friend Ugo on Facebook last week, one talk led to another and we were on the topic of sex and women. I had never before now given a thought to throwing such discussion open but when our chat got really interesting my friend suggested I do a post on it. Ok so I'm married and still relatively new in the game but truth is, I dont think I really do enjoy the actual "humping" as much as I do other acts. I love love love making out with my hubby, kissing, cuddling etc but when it comes down to 'that', I see it as my own treat for him.

Now I understand how this bothers men to think that they make all that effort and their wives dont 'enjoy' it? but I feel like a lot of women lie to their men, most of us dont actually enjoy penetration the way those pornagraphic demons moan and make us believe. And I think we should ban pornography not just because it is morally and spiritually wrong, but also because it misleads men, such that when their women don't react the way those girls do, they think its a problem!

We should be open enough to our men about what we really love and like, and we should as much as possible make them comfortable with who we are. I have my very special way of hitting the ultimate "G' and I told hubby from the beginning, so driving down that lane is a lot easier for me especially with my very able co-pilot! :) Basically, nor dey lie, if you no cum, no talk say u cum, and if you do, let the bad guy know!

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Lets Talk About Sex Baby!!

2011-10-14T05:45:00.000-07:00

I personally see sex as something very sacred, something not to be messed with and something to do the right way, yes the right way! Now I know that many of us have faulted, we have at one point or the other abused it...well thats why we are human.

Now, the commercialization of sex is stale gist so I wont even touch that. However I want to talk about a matter that has bothered me for sometime now. Last week I was discussing with my colleagues about marriage, sex, etc when one of the guys said he cant marry any lady until she gets pregnant for him. We argued back and forth and out of annoyance I told him "God will block that your sperm passage let me see how you'll give woman belle". I think what pissed me off was the fact that he didnt think there could be an issue with him, he kept saying he knew everything was fine with him but that he must "test commodity" before buying say afterall him nor be apapa warehouse where you can buy non-tested and you're on your own. Painfully, our women are giving in to these kind of guys everyday! I have heard about so many babes who gave in to that pressure and while some went well, others went bizzare. Why would you as a man or woman allow anybody put you under pressure to have sex??? Nor be you get shop and key?+ the right to open for business when you like....why is it that bad as market be, we nor dey quick differentiate between these window shoppers and who wan buy market? And please dont get my post twisted, I am in total agreement with God's word that says WAIT! but if you are going to sin, why do so on someone else's terms and condition? mba nu! makes no sense at all.

I also hear there is the group of men who make ladies do family planning when they are not married to them, what madness! A hot argument started sometime ago in my school group on bb when someone posted this gist about about a lady who was pregnant and not sure how to tell her bobo. Reason? they had been on family planning and she was supposed to have renewed within that period but didnt, and didnt tell the guy...so kakpooom! baby entered! Her major worry was that she knew the guy would ask her to abort but she also knew that he would use the abortion against her in future. So why not have your baby? she doesnt want to loose the guy+she's not financially and mentally prepared to have a child! Interesting times we live in! How can someone who is not ready to die set out for war? You nor want pikin, yet you lay down, spread leg, allow some man pour pikin-making liquid into you and you dont want pikin?

In short, just like paracetamol, we've over abused sex!

Blessed weekend!

Lazy Post........

2011-09-09T07:02:00.000-07:00

So I decided I wanted a new look (diff. from my dreads)…. I disturbed my colleague until she gave me directions to her stylist’s. Oya nah, time to do short hair, babe barely wove my thick dreads which I found strange, and next thing I knew I had on something that looked like a dew rag without the strap abi na rope….ghen ghen, bonding gel ( which I choose to call black gum) started the ultimate job of the day. One by one sliced pieces of weaves were being glued to my hair and in another hour I had a transformed look.

Back at the office I’m all excited and practically licking this colleague’s toes in gratitude for the semi – queen she had helped turn me into…I couldn’t have known what was coming! Barely 24hrs down my head was rioting against me! I could literally hear the root of my hair wailing and screaming at me to give her some breathing space. As in, I can’t paint the picture here! I quickly grabbed one of those tiny combs with a long end …and tried to reach down to the root and met a serious rock! The dew rag!! I dug and dug and dug until I made a head way and then I began to ‘scroop’ (secondary sch. slang for scratch) the darn thing!

This morning, I look at the poor hair in the mirror, brush it up and whisper “one week down, two more to go..Times are hard darling”

Out!

Meet reigning Miss Nigeria UK - Chichi Okafor

2011-08-16T07:23:00.000-07:00

Crowned queen on Dec 12, 2010 at the Porchester Hall, Paddintong/Bayswater, Chi-Chi has kept same personality.

In this exclusive chat with me, she admits "I'm a crazy queen...same way I was before I won the crown, nothing has changed". Truly she is crazy and funny too! I know I had an overdose of laughter chatting away with this young and fabulous beauty queen with a difference!

Beautiful inside out, Chi-Chi is passionate about blood donation and tells how important it is for everyone to be actively involved.

As a diaspora queen, she hopes to give back to Nigeria by opening a clinic that gives free care to babies...

She looks forward to sharing her beautiful experience with the next queen.....says her most memorable time so far was having dinner with the head of chancery,Nigeria High Commission...

ChiChi describes her fashion style as simple, decent and classy!

http://nonyeanike.blogspot.com

For lack of a post.... few photos from the 1407 Style clothing line launch...

2011-08-12T05:37:00.000-07:00

My big sis Oge and my friend Nkem

So my cuz in-law launched his fashion line and I was there....end of post! *silly grin*

And they squeezed me in...

Urs truly and the Creative Director of 1407 Style, Ugo


L-R: Moi et Hubby, My big sis, moi friend

My white face!

Before you draw that line......

2011-08-12T03:51:00.000-07:00

Someone sent this story to me and I thought to share.... powerful!

QUITE INTERESTING,ENJOY............

THE. VOW

I, Sarah Adams take Lawson Kuti as my lawful wedded husband, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" she smiled at him through her veil.

"You may now kiss your bride Mr. Lawson" The Pastor beckoned.

Lawson's heart raced as he gently unveiled his bride's face. She looked so beautiful. He gently bent over and placed a soft kiss on her lip. Sarah in turn embraced him tightly with tears of joy streaming down her face.

"Never leave me Sarah" He whispered in her ear.

"I will never leave you" she whispered and they slowly released themselves from the embrace.

"I present to you the latest couple!" The Pastor exclaimed excitedly

The church cheered and Sarah cried more in her husband's arms

5 years Later

Sarah silently tip toed behind her husband. He was in his study, engrossed in reading. She smiled to herself and gently covered his eyes with both hands.

"It's just you and I in this house Sara, plus, I smelled you the moment you walked in" He dropped

Sara released her hold, sighed and sat on the study table, "Why do you figure me out so easily? I can't even surprise you! That sucks" she curled her arms around his neck

"You are my wife, nothing you do is supposed to surprise me" He playfully pecked her nose.

"But you've been in the study all day and I'm bored!" She rolled her eyes

"So what kind of fun do you suggest we have then?" He swooped her off the table in his arms

"No! no that kind of fun!" She hit him playfully till he put her down

"Ok", He folded his arms on his chest, looking into her eyes, "So what do you want us to do?"

"Not us. Actually, all I want is to play with your play station and you've hidden it again! Just give it and you can continue your reading. pleaaaseee" She blinked her eyes playfully

"No way", He went back toward his study chair and sat, "Not my play station"

"Why! You never let me touch it...like its your baby" She sulked

"Well", he rolled his eyes, "Not like you've given me a baby yet"

Sara paused for a moment. Did he just say that to her? The words struck her deep down

"You shouldn't have said that Lawson..." She managed to say, her countenance changing.

"But it's true...I'm only saying the truth Sara" He turned to face her, still sitting on the chair.

"The truth? You think I don't want us to have kids?"

"Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that..." He stood to face her now.

"Then what are you saying Lawson? Tell me, what is the truth?"

"Let's not do this today...please. You can have the play station and play all you want. It's in my footwear locker and the key is in my Bible"

"You always do this...hurting me with your words" Her voice began to shake

"Don't start Sara please"

"Tell me why you said those words to me! I want to know!"

"Because I'm tired! I want to be a father! I want to have my own kids Sara..."

" and you think I don't?!" Sara flared, trying not to let the tears pour

"Then why can't you get pregnant Sara? This is the fifth year we are trying." He clenched his teeh and walked out of the study.

Sara was in shock. She sat on the chair for some seconds, stood up again and saton the chair again...this time she held on to her blouse and burst into tears.

2weeks after

"Lawson, wake up please" Sara tapped him

Lawson gently opened his eyes and looked at the alarm clock by his bedside, "It's 2:00am Sara..."

"It's urgent"

"I'm listening" He said drowsily

"Mother says we should come for tests. She says she's spoken to her doctor and he said we should come."

"What?" Lawson opened his eyes now, "Your mother is the UK for Christs sakes"

"Let's just do it. We can go for the weekend, lets just give it a shot, please."

"No. That would be rather expensive and..."

"It's my birthday today and the only thing I want from you is this trip"

Lawson fell quiet now. For the past two years now, his wife's birthday skips his mind...totally.

"I'm...I'm sorry Sara...It skipped my mind..."

"It always does" She lay down back on the bed, backing him.

Lawson wrapped his arms around her waist, "I said I'm sorry..."

No response.

Lawson sighed, "Fine, we go this weekend"

"Really?" She turned sharply, excited

"If it will make you happy today"

"Thank you baby" She hugged him.

A week after

Sara jerked at the vibration of the phone in her pocket.

"Hi mom!" she pressed the phone to her ear with her shoulders, wiping the washed dishes with her hands.

"Honey..."

"What is it mom?" she pressed it harder

"The result...the result of the tests..." her mother cried

Sarah gently dropped the plate and the wiper, hear racing..."Just say it mom..."

That night

"I can never have children Lawson..." Sara cried

Lawson felt his world crash right in front of him, "W...what?"

"Mama called today...she's gotten the tests results"

"Jesus Christ" Lawson stood, placing his palm on his head, "b...but you told m you were ok before we got married, you told me the doctor said your abortion didn't damage your womb"

"Don't bring my past into this!" Sara flared

Lawson laughed and got serious almost immediately, "You are crazy. I married a crazy woman!"

Sara looked at him in shock, like he'd lost his mind.

"The results say you can never have children and we bith know that this has to do with the abortion you had before we met!", he flared, "are you happy?...you know we're screwed right? No kids? what re we going to tell the world?"

"Lawson we can adopt..." Sara cried

"Adopt? Wow!", he laughed again, "I married a funny woman too!" He got sserious again, "Its still not our baby! The damn baby is not my flesh and blood! You are full of deceit Sara" He looked into her eyes. Sara could see him fighting his tears.

"Lawson stop...you are hurting me..." Sara fell on her knees crying

"You want to know what I'm thinking?" Lawson looked at her with disgust, "I'm thinking how on earth I'm going to stand seeing your deceitful face for the rest of my life"

"Sra cried harder, "Dont give up Lawson...So far I have a womb...I can still carry our baby..."

"I am not giving up on having my baby, I'm giving up on you" Lawson turned around to leave

"Lawson!" She held his feet, "I'm hurting too..."

He only dragged his feet from her hold and drove out of the house. She wept.

A month Later

"Mother, he's not even talking to me. All of a sudden we are both strangers...He doesn't eat my food, comes home late...he hates me so much and its killing me. I'm confused...to think that it's ,e truly hurting..."

"For how long will you hide this truth from him. You've got to let him know...you can't carry his..."

There was the sound of a car hon

"Mom I've got to go...he's back"

"Baby, you've got to let him know. It can work when you two are one in mind"

"Bye mom" she ended the call.

Lawson came into the house, about to walk past her.

"Lawson" She held him

"I'm tired" He didn't want to look at her face

"I know...can we talk for some minutes?" She tried to help him remove his suit

"Look what is it" He jerked from her

"Do you hate me this much? you can't even look me in the eye? you can't even stand my sight? Lawson...it's me Sara...your best friend..." Her eyes grew moist

"I'm in no mood for this" He turned around to walk away

"Don't you dare leave when I'm talking to you!" She dragged him by the suit.Just then, some papers fell to the floor. Sara quickly bent to pick them up...her hands shook and her body became numb all over.

"D...divorce papers? Lawson?" She searched his eyes

"Answer me goddammit!" She held him by the collar of his shirt, crying

"They are for you to sign. I want out" Lawson dropped

"Y...you what?" she slowly freed him from her hold

"It's not going to work Sara, can't you see?"

"Lawson I can't believe you would think of a divorce and even go this far...why are you so wicked!" she cried, angry

"No! Why are you so wicked!" He retorted, flaring

"Think about me for once. I am a man for Christs sakes. My children are my pride! and you are about to deny me that for the rest of my life because of your stupid mistake!"

"What about me! have you stopped for once to think about what I'm going through"

"Its your cross, carry it" Lawson fixed his angry eyes on his wife

"No, its now our cross and I am not signing those divorce papers! We vowed never to leave each other!"

"Isn't it better Sara that you save yourself more hurt and sign these papers than to see another woman move into this house before your very eyes?" he said with a tone of sarcasm

Sara's heart thumped, "What?"

"You heard me...another woman who can help raise a family, so save yourself the stress and sign the damn papers. I need it tomorrow"He turned around to leave again

"She still can;t carry your baby" Sara dropped

"Not all women had abortions. Not every woman was like you." He scorned

"You are the one who can't give me a child!" Sara let out, crying.

Lawson stopped now, turned around and walked towards her, "Whatever your plan is won't work"

"I told you I could never have a child because its you who can't make me pregnant"

"Shut up! shut up Sara! what the hell are you saying!" He shook her shoulders violently

"You are infertile Lawson...the doctor says you have primary infertility..." Sara burst into tears

Lawson gasped, loosing his balance.

"Mother called me to give me the news. I was shattered, I felt like my world was over but more importantly I thought of you. I thought of what the news could do to you, I thoight of the best way to tell you... never for once did i think of leaving you. I bore your insults, your scorn, because of my past. It was so easy to judge me and think of yourself. I am the one who is hurting, I am the one who should bring some miserable divorce papers...but I thought of you...I thought of hope, faith and a miracle...I thought of my vow to you on that altar. In sickness and in health remember?", she smiled through her tears, "all of a sudden you are as weak as a baby...looking in your eyes, I can see you sudenly have lost all your guards, You are so wicked"

"Sara..." Lawson fell on his knees, torn.

"No!" She quickly fell on her knees too, "No Lawson..." She couldn't bear to see him cry

"I'm...I'm infertile", he cried, "What is left of me?" he searched his wife's eyes

"Lawson please..." she held his face, "I understand...it has been so hard for me...I have put myself in your shoes since the first day..."

"You don't deserve this...you deserve better...I can't believe I scorned you all along...please let me leave you"

"No" she shook her head, "You are my husband. I won't leave you. I won't let you leave me...I believe in miracles"

"I'm doomed...Sara I'm doomed..."He allowed his wife take him in her arms and on her shoulder he wept like a child.

In the Morning

Sara gently opened her eyes, looking beside her bed...it was empty. She quickly sat up on seeing a note gently placed on the bed. Hands shaking, she opened the letter to read.

Sara,

I cannot bear the shame. I have treated you so unfairly, yet you love me still, you are with me even in this condition of mine. To think that you knew all along and you never for once gave me a clue that it is my fault we are in this mess, makes me so unworthy of you. I love you enough to let you build another life with a man who can make you happier. I'm torn Sara and all I ask is your forgiveness. I have always loved you and if you truly love me then please start your life over again...without me...I am truly sorry for disappointing you.

Lawson.

Sara couldn't control the tears. She couldn't think straight anymore. She picked her cell phone, shaking...

"Hi Mr. Lawson's office please"

"hI Lola..." she cried, "have you seen my husband today?"

"No...no ma'am, we've been expecting him at work. He has a presentation is fifteen minutes"

"Oh God...God..." Sara dipped her hand in her full hair

"Everything ok ma'am?"

"Thank you" she ended the call.

She quickly got down from the bed and in her pajamas she ran into her car. She dialed his number repeatedly as she drove...no answer.

At 2:00pm

She sped into Fred's compound, a close friend to her husband.

"Fred!" she banged the door hastily till the door flung open

"My God Sara what's wrong?" Fred held her

"It's...its Lawson...have you seen him? is he here?"

"No...Haven't heard from him in a week"

"Oh God" she held her hair

"What's wrong?"

But she was already walking away into her car.

"Sara!" He called after her.

She zoomed away.

4:30pm

"Mom, Dad, I can't find Lawson...I can't find your son..." she cried as she paced in front of the two who looked lost

"You have to calm down and tell us what happened" Lawson's mother put her arms around Sara.

Sara burst into tears, "Please Dad could you try his number, maybe he'd pick your call?"

"Have you been to his office?" He picked his cellphone and dialed his son's number

"I have been everywhere I know him to be likely available"

"It's ok...calm down please" Lawson's mother pet her

"He's not picking. What exactly went wrong between you two?" Lawson's father searched Sara'a eyes

9:00pm

Sara was still in her pajamas and on her way back home, exhausted and stuck in the traffic. She had told Lawson's parents everything. The poor couple was so shattered and also begging her to begin a new life. Sara buried her head on the steering, crying; she hadn't realized the green light.

"Hey get off the freaking road!" a driver cursed from behind her

"God please don't let him harm himself...keep him safe and lead me to him...please God..." she quickly started the car and began to move.

Suddenly she remembered the church where they wedded and took their vows. It was two hours from here; she made a u-turn and headed for the church hoping to find some peace.
She tiredly got down from the car, drenched and exhausted. She trudged into the open entrance of the church. She paused for a moment; shocked...it was Lawson sitting at the front row of the empty church, facing the altar.
"Lawson!" She began to run towards him, happy, relieved that he was ok.

"Sara?" He quickly stood as she approached him, "Sara..."

They both ran into each other's arms. He hugged her so tightly

"I looked for you everywhere....this was the last place I thought you'd ever be...I just came and I saw you...Lawson....I'm so happy you are ok" she touched his face

"I didn't know where else to go...It just feels like I cant face the world anymore..." he slowly released her from his embrace.

"Take my hand" Sara stretched out her hand, "C'mon, just take it"

Lawson gently clasped his hand into hers and she took him to the altar and stood to face him. She searched his eyes so deeply and hadn't seen him so weak and helpless.

"Five years ago Lawson, we both stood on this altar. Remember our vows? Remember you whispered in my ear never to leave you. I told you I wouldn't...that's why I'm here. I am your wife Lawson, I am meant to be with you forever, though the bad and good times. We've had good times, why would I leave you now? All I want from you is to believe that you can still give me a child despite what the result said...I want you to believe in a miracle", she held his face, "remember when you told me I was a miracle in your life?...our children will be our miracles too. Trust God with me because I know it won't be long..."

"Who are you Sara..." Lawson was weak with her words

"The one who vowed to be with you till the end" she smiled through her thin tears

"God I love you so much Sara" He hugged her again

"So will you come back home with me?" Sara searched his eyes

"I have no other place to call home" He placed a soft kiss on her lips.

2 years after

Lawson and Sara were on the sofa watching a late night movie. Sara was resting on his shoulders when she felt the movement

"Lawson Lawson, it moved again...don't miss it this time touch touch" she gently placed his palm on the side of the stomach. Both felt the movement of their child

"I can feel him...I can feel him" Lawson placed his head on her belly

"I can feel him growing each day inside of me..."
"What do you think its saying now by this movement?"
"Thank you dada for believing in me" she laughed. They both laughed "The movement has stopped" he slowly removed his head from her stomach, "I think he's sleeping"
Sara rested on his shoulders again, "In six months you'd be a father, "You finally got your miracle"

Lawson tilted his wife's face to him, looking into her eyes, "Sara...you were the miracle I needed. Thank you for not leaving me."
Sara tickled his nose with hers, "I love you too. Always will", she smiled, "We missed a whole lot on our movie"
"Movie can wait, but this can't" He gently planted a kiss on her belly.

Share your thoughts!

In Memory of My Dear Friend Victoria Ironua

2011-08-02T08:36:00.000-07:00

This is not the kind of come back I was hoping to make but I must do this in honour of my dear friend Victori Ironua, who carried my Nigeria Blog Awards nomination on her head, she campaigned on facebook and so badly wanted me to win. I couldnt sleep last night, I have not been myself all day at work but I know that my friend is in a better place. Good night Vicky darling! Jehovah knows best!.

Note: pls more than shows, fashion, competition and ambition, seek God and keep His commandments. There's much more to life than beauty and outward perception, heaven is real, hell is real....death is only a passage into one of them. God bless you!

ORDER MY STEPS IN YOUR WORD

2011-08-02T08:01:00.000-07:00

Re-Post....LET THEM WALK! Oct. 2010

2011-07-13T05:15:00.000-07:00

Ok I did this post last year and for lack of what to put up today, i decided to re-post for the benefit of those who didnt read it then.... very true life story of "yours truly" in fact! Tmr I'll put up two of my short stories. Yay! Myne Whitman would love me for that! :)

Jan 2009 - I walked into GHartel looking really fab, heads turned and there were whispers around, some too loud above my head. Wow! it felt really good to be a Nigerian. I had heard how guys here thought Nigerian babes were fabulous dressers, and oh I tried to rep that!

So I finally meet this Mr. Near-Perfect, who was one of the managers, my friend who sent me to him had said he wont make a move on me if he was already with someone, he was that perfect! Anyways we chatted away, I gave him my passport details and CV,narrated my immigration plight with the sincere hope that their company would do something about my work permit. Apparently our guy was feeling your chic and so we headed off to Churcheez for lunch and there the game began. Dinner after dinner, movies after movies and we were a 'thing'. Finally I asked about his girl and he didnt lie but didnt totally tell the truth. Big deal! I just needed something to distract me frm my current situation...but alas I ended up feelin up this dude.I thought he was really cool and smart, you know had the complete package any woman would want.

Given our new bond/attachment, I became more curious as to the true state of things between him and ~~these~~ this girls in his life. He continued to 'post' me. I remember getting home one night and confronting my friend in anger, "Paa you told me Fordsran was a decent guy, i'm dealin with the same thing u said wont happen,I swear to you Paa u dont know this guy". Finally I decided I was done being played with, but guy wont let go so we kept patching it and I continued hurting. Every time this particular babe called him they wld speak in their language and I would just stare, and to the second girl I was just his Nigerian friend, infact my number was saved on his phone as "Nonye Naija" as against the "Sweethrt and Bhoney" used in saving the other two. I wept so hard one very early morning to the point I smashed my phone on the wall, that moment I knew a nut had unscrewed somewhere in my head and it was time to go. Immigration Discrimination Bullshit + Man Crappiness = GO HOME!

To cut a long story short, I called him to say I was leaving and he went cold, next thing he said 'u know what? lets start all over again', hmmm, let me not even try to explain my rage.Well I transferred my anger to God and began to question Him, what sort of set up was this? in the midst of what I considered a trying time, you let this guy who I thought was a comforter come into my life and complicate issues, God why? I cried and cried, and finally I was back in Lagos. Amazingly, in less than 2 days I was soooo over with the guy. I couldnt even understand what I had seen in him in the first place, and to think that I was already begining to consider a long term thing between us. Oh! did I mention I found out he was engaged to "Sweethrt"!

(Well its all thanks to Fordsran for messing up me otherwise I wouldnt hv met my blazing 'Customized Boo' and fiance, Endy.)

Oct. 2010 - Na so I dey facebook last week and I got a message from my friend which started with "Brace Yourself For This" ......it turned out my handsome,cool, smart and relationship hot mess ex boyfriend had defrauded his company and clients and had been fired, locked up in state CID, beaten and stripped of everything , includin his car, house etc....I couldnt believe it. This was the same man I thought was the best guy at his job, I mean I knew he had women issues but stealing kwa? I was shocked. This same man I cried and cried for, the one I considered "long term" thing with, the man on whose account I questioned God! At first I felt he must have been set up but they say he wasnt, he actually commited the fraud. Maka Chi eh! when people walk out of our lives we need to go to God and say THANK YOU FOR TAKING THIS ~~CURSE~~ AWAY FROM ME!

On the rains....

2011-07-12T01:36:00.000-07:00

Wont I be super unfair to myself if I dont blog about the rains??? Oh yeah I live at Ajah and though I slept very peacefully on my bed, I had my fair share too. We drove in that rain, and had our car assume temporary canoe to navigate the otherwise normal lekki road. Very sad. I couldnt even go to work yesterday and oh well it was well worth it since hubby didnt go too! :)
My heart goes out to all those rendered homeless and to the families of every deceased person, may God console and strengthen you all. To those of us still living, pls live one day at a time and be grateful for the things that God has given you.

On a lighter note, Lagos State Govt shd probably rename Lekki - "Lakey" and Parkview - "Lakeview" :LOL!
Errrr emm.... the weather on Sunday was cold and errrrm conducive for some activities... so I tweeted " Toast to all babies made on July 10 in Lagos, we await your arrival in April 2012. Happy Implantation!" ( some pple have hijacked this already and put as their Facebook status!)

Pls, who is a Live-In-Lover??? I need rapid response!

Spotted! My dad in this night shirt!!

2011-06-28T02:21:00.000-07:00

Oh my poor daddy! He was spotted innocently rocking this night shirt in the villa the period of his mum's funeral.... I laughed so hard and asked him to take a very comfortable position at the balcony while I took the picture. When he asked what I wanted to use it for, I gave him the cock and bulls of working in an Ad. agency blah blah and needed the copy for some campaign....daddy smiled and said '' When the money comes, just remember whose night shirt it is"...chai!! poor papa mi! Apparently he kollobied the thing from my ex-step mum (story for anoda day).......

eh! you pple should not yabb my father o! snap ya papa own make we see!

oh and btw we have been nominated for Best Personal Blog... thanks for nominating us... now follow this link VOTE to throway vote give us..thankyo!

Sunshine Award...

2011-06-17T03:53:00.000-07:00

Thank you so much Myne Whitman!! So as instructed to "Please keep the blessing going by gifting 10 people with the award letting them know their contribution to bloggersville is appreciated and what they have to say matters." I'm tagging the following people....

1. HoneyDame - She totally cracks me up and yeah she's my blog bestie :)

2. Myne Whitman - Not just another blogger! There's always something new to learn from her...and she's such a great writer too!

3. Muse - He's one of those people wasting spaces on blogville :) and I know he wont give a hoot about the award...but anyways am so madly in love with him! You should visit his blog when you feel a bit poetic..

4. Sisi Yemmie - This babe will give comediennes a run for their money any day!!

5. Enybee _ Everything about her blog will remind you of Christ!

6.Adiya - She's a blogger with a difference! Sometimes I wish I had a much more focused vision for my blog like she does

7. Dith - This one na original "asa mpete/asa baby" the babe likes herself eh!! and I like her too :)

8.Natural Nigerian - Every time I feel like cutting my hair and joining the Brazilian troop I just visit her blog and am proud of my dreads again!

9Nutrition Alert - The blogger we need in these days of strange sicknesses.... she puts me in check health-wise!

10.Pretty Lashes - There's just something I love about her blog...

11. Love 'n Words She just has a message for the world! love love love her!

There are countless other blogs I love... pls tag them for me :)

At Sisi Yemmie, A Certain Anonymous, Corner Shop and Myne Whitman's Request!

2011-06-16T02:29:00.000-07:00

At my sister's

Una no go put me for trouble on this blog o! :Lol!!

Well thankfully I came to work today without my lappy so I'm posting just a few photos I have on my phone...

Heading to a wedding

DCC Dubai

Se finee! (did I get that right?)

Nominate me o!

2011-06-15T03:45:00.000-07:00

All I ask for is category 16 (Best Personal Blog - blogger who blogs on personal experiences) of the Nigerian Bloggers Award.... you see am not greedy! :) To nominate pls visit the site here . Go ahead and nominate your gurl.. Abi have I not been personal enough for hia???? hmmmm remember my honeymon photos o! I been show una some kain kain things plus all the many personal tori wen I don nak for hia......

What's in My Bag?!

2011-06-14T06:10:00.000-07:00

Hmmm this one is funny! LOL I was tagged by Dith to empty my bag which I have done below. I usually carry much bigger bags but for una own good I decided to empty a not so big one cos trust me I carry around all manner of strange things in that thing called a hand bag.....and yes all those contents fit into the bag shown :)

My bag is a hand crafted one from Senegal...hubby saw it while we were on honeymoon, totally fell in love with it and got it for me.

Contents

very uninteresting contents!

1. Cup - I carry it around cos I hate to leave things like that in the office and yeah I dont share!
2. ID Card
3. Business Card Holder

4. Dove Cream (which I use as hand cream)

5. Hand Sanitizer
6. Palo Palo pocket tissue

6. Mentos Gum ( everyone needs it)
7. Cash! I dont have a wallet so I just fold and throw money in the inner compartment :)
8. Spoon o! (strange abi?), used to carry ground Cameroon pepper around too but when it was mistaken for jazz, I stopped
9.Phones
10. Keys
11. Perfume
12. Sun glasses
13. USB drive ( you never know what you wanna copy)
14 Shoe shiner :)
15.ATM card ( carry just one!)

16. Folic Acid ( very important for ALL women of childbearing age!)

17. Black Berry EarPhones
18. Make up materials A.K.A ngwo ngwo ochonma!..

Am particularly tagging HoneyDame ....but everyone else should please feel free to empty theirs too!!!

Who Am I Preaching To???

2011-06-13T07:20:00.000-07:00

Halleluyah somebori!!! Welcome to church today! J

I figure this is something I would be doing often on my blog; share testimonies of people around me to strengthen someone’s faith.

This one happened to my cousin’s very close friend. The lady had been married for a while with an 8yr old only child and was never able to conceive again. Two years ago, my cousin had gone on vacation with her and her daughter, and while they were holidaying, the little girl got ill. They came back to Nigeria and the unfortunate happened, she died. It was a very huge blow on not just the family but everyone around. I couldn’t even begin to imagine how the mum was able to sleep and wake up. Yet she held on. Long and short is the woman just gave birth to a baby girl some weeks ago after trying for close to 9yrs! Now I know some people will say all kinds of things but I have chosen to believe that the ways of God are not our ways, period! This woman prayed, trusted and God heard! Heavenly lotto…E fit be you o!

Second testimony is mine. Errr yesterday out of boredom I was looking for something to read, and then I stumbled on a journal I had kept since 2008. My older sister had bought it and given to me and my female cousins, those of us who were still single. The journal basically is meant for writing notes to your future husband while you wait for him. It’s supposed to be a gift to your husband and you pour out your heart to him in the journal daily. It’s titled “Wait for Me” by Rebecca St. James. Last night I read some of the things I wrote some years ago and tears just flowed. I couldn’t believe those days were gone and I had indeed walked into my answered prayers. So I called my hubby in and we read it together, he just kept staring at me.

Below are some stuffs I wrote in there:

January 31, 2008

Sweetheart, I trust in God’s perfect timing because I know it always turns out for good. Guess what? Today I browsed through a couple of ring sites trying to find out what we’d love best. I thought of white gold rings with diamond stones. It made me remember you and think so much of you. To be honest, I haven’t done that in quite a while, been busy trying to fix things in my life. I truly do not have so much to say today but I do love you, I guess that’s more important.

Love, Nonye.

February 6, 2009

I wish you could have seen the way I’ve been crying all evening, especially after reading what I wrote to you on February 14, 2008. It’s about a week to another valentine and I have not yet met you. I honestly cant say I understand it anymore. On another side, I’ve been through a lot in the last 4 weeks and am only managing to stay strong. I feel terribly lonely and I don’t know what to do but to sit down and hope that someday this whole wait would be over

May 21, 2010

Hmmm cant believe its been a year since I last wrote. I don’t feel lonely anymore for obvious reasons. So am goin to start by saying ND: so its been you all this time? All those notes in the past two years were you? Very amazing! It feels different writing now that I know who I’m writing to. Today we almost ended our relationship after 7months! How could we have even thought about it? Would it really have been possible to get on without you? We are almost 8 months in this walk and would hit 30 yrs together stronger, and understanding each other better. I look forward to our small and unique wedding later in the year, and most especially reading this journal with you and sharing the laughs!.

The message here is that no matter how long it takes, just like God said in Habakkuk 2:3 “The vision may tarry but wait for it, it shall surely come”.

Am going away to have another papa!

2011-05-24T05:08:00.000-07:00

Just going away for grandma's burial :) I'll post what I can from the villa otherwise chill till I return with loads of pictures....

And yes, God has given me more than my expectation.... On Sunday May 15, 2011, on our way to church we tuned in to Inspiration FM and TD Jakes was on. I got lost in the message and felt like I was in church already. He prophesied that in 8days time, somebody would see God come through for him/her, I quickly grabbed the word and held it tight. I think I only remembered it once during the week and tried not to be anxious. In exactly 8days, I was headed to the bank to pay for a car we had not at all imagined. All this time my hubby and I had been trying to save to get me a golf or something as small and affordable but somehow other things kept getting in the way. We finally decided we would sell our old car and get something better that we could both use...to cut a long story short, we got this car without having to sell our old! God indeed blesses us exceedingly abundantly above ALL that we ask or think.

Someone needs to hang in there, God will surely come through for you! and while you're trusting God, be grateful for what He has given already.. dont let your needs pause your praise! Stay blessed!

ChiDynma - Obimmo

2011-05-24T04:40:00.000-07:00

Super tight video from my high school mate ..repping us welller! Go gurl!

Good and sad...well not so bad

2011-05-12T08:52:00.000-07:00

Birthday Sisi

Cake from Hubby

It was my bday yesterday and I had as much fun as I could handle.... on my desk at work! The only different thing I did besides work was see a movie I had been dying to see - Mirror of Life (yeah Nigerian movie, shoot me!) Went to see my sister afterwards and went home. No party, no dinner (yet). So thats the good part.... am glad to be alive and almost 30!

The sad part is that my grandma is dead! yeah the same one I spent 2005 valentine eating groundnuts with. You know I always said my saddest day would be anyday my mum dies, and then she died...I still havent fully recovered from loosing that woman's love.. And just early this year, I told my hubby that if anything happened to my granny am not sure how I'll cope, I didnt even want to think about it...but hey, she was old and really frail so its farewell my darling, funny and super woman grand mother. It is believed that am a re-incarnate of her mother, I dont share in those believes tho....

By fire, by brimestone..... me sef I be wife material!

2011-05-10T07:23:00.001-07:00

First lemme thank my blogville bestie HoneyDame for checking up on me and actually driving me to do a post today...thanks gurl!

This was something that happened at about this time last year. My boyfriend's cousin who we shall call Okonna had just broken up with this very fine calabar babe...reason: she wasn't a typical calabar girl. She would come around on weekends and never help out with anything. I think on one occassion she saw me cooking and said something like 'hmmm u dey try o", anyways she was fired and she's not the topic of this post.

Few weeks down, Okonna comes to me with his phone, shows me this babe's photo and goes like "I'm feeling her right now", before I could give a response, O'babay was in the house for weekend! Oya na! Like say she been dey there when my bobo and Okonna dey tear the calabar girl with mouth say she no sabi do anything, this new yoruba girl Atinuke took charge!
I was in my house that weekend and boyfriend had come to see me, next thing I heard him and my sisters laughing so hard, I quickly paused my movie and ran into the room, he was on the phone with Okonna. Apparently Atinuke had gone to market, bought several kilos of turkey and made this killer yoruba stew plus a pot of fresh egusi soup and beans/plantain for breakfast the next day! Gengen!! wife material don land! As was expected, Okonna didnt move an inch out of the house that weekend, it was a choppyson weekend.

Meanwhile I couldnt wait to see this new babe.....after work on Monday, as amebo wey I be,I rushed to my bobo's office and followed him home, on getting there, I saw someone clad in a complete winter outfit, and I mean head gear inclusive,I looked around the house again before walking closer to see her face well.....hmmmmmm was all I could say to myself. Meanwhile as was expected, dinner was ready. After introductions, I proceeded to boyfriend's room and then to his bathroom.....small confusion come catsh me dia, he had been at work all day, how come there were freshly laundered clothes lined up in the bathroom and since when did the bath curtain rail turn hanging line? I looked at the clothes again, his boxers, inner shirts, polos etc...long and short be say O'babay left her new bobo's room, enter my own bobo room, come go im laundry basket, carry im underwear go wash! Chei! trespassing! omo, fear grip both Okonna and my bobo. As we dey march go parlour, na so we see Atinuke don pack all Okonna work shirt dey iron them one by one including the one laundry man don already iron. Next thing, she looked at us and went like"are you guys ready to have dinner?"....nna mehn! no see where grown men dey fear food... I couldnt help the laugh that night, ehen na! shebi na them want wife material, behold one in thy abode! LOL.

The babe didnt stop there o! she took it even further. She went on a "friend request" spree on facebook, started adding everybody linked to my boyfriend and his cousin, home and abroad as long as there was a link....Trust my brother Okonna, the O'babay was fired too! for she had crossed the line! :) LOL!

And did I mention that this babe was in school then and still is......she go leave school for Osun State abi na Ogun, come dey follow man for Lag!

MustReadBlogs

2011-04-14T08:24:00.000-07:00

Politics and poetry lovers, I introduce you to this passionate man Muse (who I happen to be in love with :))

And if you love "LOVE" you should check out this blog Love 'N' Words the babe's a blogger with a vision and mission..... and yeah she featured my hubby and I. :)

......the rest of you, stick right here with me! lol

All below 70, get on your knees!

2011-04-13T06:28:00.000-07:00

You would really be insensitive if you have not noticed the rate at which people are dying these days’ especially young people. What happened to the promise God made to us concerning the number of our years? Didn’t He say 70 years? And 80 years by reason of strength?? (Psalm 90: 10) I think this thing started in 2007 and has gradually continued to increase. People no longer grow old, obituaries reading 60 yrs and less. The fear of who’s next stings me every once in a while, which is why am writing about it now and I sincerely pray that this post changes the life of someone.

I was in a meeting last week Thursday when my phone rang and it was my sister, she said my childhood friend and neighbor was dead, a trailer crushed the vehicle he was traveling in. Two nights ago, my friend put up the picture of a very cute lady on his BBM…. The lady was dead too! 31 yrs, breast cancer. So I ask, what is going on? I strongly believe that young people need to return to God, we’ve strayed somewhere and somehow. ’m not saying that these people who died are guilty of any sins in particular but it’s clear that the devil is attacking our generation and we’re all too busy chasing fashion, music, gadgets and fame!

Its almost as if technology has drained our sanity, young people know too much these days and our parents are old school…we no longer listen to them when they admonish us. But hey! Watch it! I don’t know if this could be another reason we’re losing our young and vibrant friends but a scripture readily comes to my mind “Exodus 20:12 Honour your father and your mother THAT YOUR DAYS WILL BE LONG …. Eph 6:2 this is the only commandment with a promise” I don’t know who you are but someone is gonna need to call their father or mother to make things right again.

I really have no answers to give, I only think we should re-consider our ways, and this is not by going to church but by living everyday knowing that we’re in a race and we would one day reach an ultimate destination – heaven or hell is completely ours to choose. We need to get our minds back and not lose the heaven consciousness. When you drive, remember Christ, when at work, remember heaven, when you talk, consider the Holy Spirit, whatever you do, keep God at the centre…….Get on your knees and pray!

Enjoy this soul lifting song: Moving Forward

.......Help me with a TITLE!

2011-04-13T04:41:00.000-07:00

First, never again will I make a promise not be away from blogville for too long cos even when I mean to keep it, things just keep coming up and it makes me feel like a liar liar (which I try not to be).

Eemmm, where do I begin today's post? Ok! the Friday before the cancelled elections, I had gone to the market straight from work to get a few stuffs and as expected the market was very rowdy like Lagos was closing down.
On my way out o, na so one man from no where just came to my side and took a long look at my heavy chest and muttered to himself "chai, see wetin my fellow man dey enjoy o". I heard him very clearly and I didnt know whether to laugh or get upset. I felt embarrassed and thought there was something wrong with the statement, so in the bid to validate my thoughts, I told my husband the story and he scattered laugh......he thought it was sooo funny. Well maybe now I do too. Oh! the pains of a booby queen!

Ehen, pls whats the big deal about someone's BIS expiring??? so what if reactivation fee is 'just' 3k, does that mean people are not allowed to be broke for a moment again? My friend's BIS expired and he was off for a day or 2 , when he re-activated, he said his BBM mysteriously disappeared from his phone, so that explains his 2days absence.. really? what kind of unnecessary talk is that? Last month my BIS was off for quite a while, but how did that change who I am? I had a lot of pressing needs and I didnt realize I hadnt included blackberry in my budget for the month, it was my hubby who eventually paid the subscription. With more important issues like a deadline to make a payment for my car, buy one or two new things for the house, send money for a very important need back home etc, should blackberry be my priority? I certainly missed it cos of how much my work was slowed down but excuse me people have been working before BB madness was unleashed. mcheeew! If you're broke, you're broke, it doesnt mean its forever. Rich people get broke, banks get broke, countries get broke! ah ah! People really need to stop attaching too much priorities to things that are trivial, life is already complicated, lets not make it worse.

Lets continue jare, my day job! (*sigh*) , I totally love what I do but sometimes I feel like there's so much more locked inside me... oh I know there is. Restlessness in one's spirit is a sign not to ignore... the gift of a man really doth make ways for him, still trying to figure which of my gifts would make that way but you see, I sent my short story "Nnedi" to an editor and by the time she was done working on it, I thought Chimamanda had copied my work! LOL... seriously am thinking seriously, like seriously! Might this be the gift? I dont know o cos I dont consider myself that much of a writer especially when I read Glory Edozien and Wana Udobang's stuffs on BN. God helep!

*sure you know hardly edit so forgive any typos or complete olodoism*

Lost and Found!

2011-03-30T09:24:00.000-07:00

You see am one of those women who believe its almost impossible for a man to lavish gifts and favors on a lady without other motives. I met this guy in 2006 through a friend and we got really close, he was SUPER rich, funny, lively, great height, not so handsome (even though he believed he was Denzel), and EXTRA SUPER ARROGANT. This guy spoilt me well, I mean in a way no man had prior to meeting him. We continued to be just friends until I found out he was married with 2 daughters, I started to look at him in a funny light like how could he not have told me he was married.

To cut a long story short, I went for NYSC and he offered to get me a car, at that point I had to ask him what he wanted and he gave it to me out rightly…

”Nonye are you okay? I send my driver to pick you up, get out of meetings to take your calls, step out of my bedroom to talk to you, send you tickets when you need to travel, gave you someone’s two months’ salary to go to NYSC camp with and you open your mouth to ask me what I want! ok, I want to be your brother! This girl you be pikin? Look ,I like you too much to want to get upset with you right now , so pls don’t let me’’.

I don’t know if I captured everything he said but anyways my mouth hung open until he finished. I just told him I needed to clear my head and he hung up immediately. I cried and cried that day, prayed my heart out and sent him a message that I couldn’t be who he wanted me to be to him. He replied and said we’ll see in heaven. For days I walked around like a moron, and of course everyone came with their opinions, some said God will forever be proud of me, others said I shoulda let the guy take good care of me…. I simply missed my friend.

In August 2009, some random guy started a chat with me on facebook and very very unlike me, I responded though reluctantly. After a few chats I started relaxing more with him, I didn’t waste time in asking his marital status and he didn’t lie. He was married with 3 kids, he even went ahead to send me their photos and told me how much he loved his wife and didn’t want ‘anything’ from me. I found it really weird and kept asking why he would chat with a stranger on facebook and he always just insisted that he didn’t want anything from me. We continued to talk and I started to believe and trust him. When he came down to Nigeria, he insisted that I come to see him with my fiancé as he wouldn’t have it any other way. We have continued to be friends and sometimes I forget that we’re not biologically related, he told my hubby that I’m his adopted sister and I call him my adopted uncle (he’s much older). He has been there for me spiritually and otherwise, I cannot mention the things he has done for me here out of respect for both him and my husband but I can say that there are very few men like this and even though I still believe that most men wont just do things for a lady without wanting something back, I must say that this one is a rare kind. He may not have given me as much material things as the other guy but he is the real friend I lost and has definitely given more!

*forgiveanytypo(s)*

Oh Sweetness!

2011-03-24T03:00:00.000-07:00

HoneyDame my new found bestie on blog ville gave me this sweet award ~~after I begged for it~~. Unfortunately I cant nominate her back as I really do feel like....

Here are the rules:

1. Mention Five (5) guilty pleasures
2.Nominate 3 bloggers to recieve the award

- I love sleep and the activities that bring it on faster.... my husband labeled me ''Bia and sleep'' (Bia means ''Come'' in igbo) emmmm you figure!

- Shoes Shoes Shoes (but if it exceeds a certain amount ~~N10,000~~, keep it for yourself, thank you!)

- I love talk, sweet talk baby! ( no wonder that Akwa Ibom boy dribbled me like rounded pig skin for 24months)

- Sharwama sharwababy, sharwasweety, sharwahoney oh dear sharwama! (even better accompanied with Rubis velvet chocolate wine! )

- I love mouka foam-inspired-sanctified-gymnastics (am legally and spiritually allowed to! *stickstongueout*... a perfect excuse to stay off the gym! and yes I love the sleep it brings

My nomination:
muse
Dith's Haute Spot
Icy Moments

Something about these blogs make me happy... you should check them out and follow!

Random Post

2011-03-22T08:14:00.000-07:00

I just felt like posting something today no matter how short or uninteresting.
I found out that I have very serious punctuation issues (lowers head in shame), I mean I put up posts and laugh at myself when I read them... then again I try not to edit so much so people can see me as I am. Secondly, I use the word "SO" a lot (lowers head again), I guess I need to take writing classes, 'so' if you know any articles that could help me, i'll appreciate if you'll mail them nonyeanike@gmail.com

I stumbled on this letter below and am not too sure what to make of it. If u know the story, pls share

In the Name of Fashion and Politics

2011-03-21T09:13:00.000-07:00

Na wa o! this N200 something go cause wahala o! (see my interview below to catch up). Ok I have finally decided to say what it is......hmmmmmmmm its something Dru Hill's Sisqo sang about 12yrs ago.....dont ask further, do the homework and when u figure it out, pls share! :)

Ehen o! so I've been off for a while now, I apologize, its the day ~~workshop~~ job, it wont let me fulfill my one post a day vision for 2011. But well i've been reading up some very interesting posts on other blogs and I must say am falling more and more in love with the blog community, I nearly gave up last year.

Ok so let me talk about a few things that didnt pass my attention last week.

Fashion:
The Arise Magazine Fashion Show. You see I woulda loved to go but I didnt get any invite and I didnt have ány extra money to spend going to look at outfits I cannot afford its originals (oh yes! am that dry and razz - plus i really cant afford it). But mehn!!!! the guests wan scatter my head with their fabulous, outrageous, hilarious, masqueradious outfits! It was a modified rag day for some folks, an opportunity to show some love to their mama's abandoned wrappers and pay homage to the rags! Jees! I kept goin like ''Ogini bu this one?'' as I scrolled down websites with photos of the event. Anyways I must give it to Nigerian designers who really did wowwy stuffs! Una do well, and to the others, left to me some of your clothes will turn to curtains in your shops.

Politics:
So Mallam Shekarau is that smart???? How come I didnt notice it in my 1yr of NYSC in Kano? puzzle puzzle. As e be now mehn, aint gat no presidential candidate o! I will just be alert in the spirit and ''put my hand'' accordin to first lady, where the Lord says put! Jona, Jona, Jona! how many times did I call u??? shebi na kokomansion be your plans for naija? u didnt honour presidential debate invite because you were too busy campaigning but you could sit down with D'Banj while he tells u the koko? no worry, your own music video is on the way.

So guys, I hope you all have a beautiful week and keep your lovely posts coming, i'll be checking and leaving comments on your blogs!

Much love!

*ps when am I getting my own blog award nah?? abi I never blog reach?* :) :)

Blogger Nonye Lets Us In On Her World!

2011-03-07T09:38:00.000-08:00

Last week I promised I was going to interview myself and make a post.... here it is! think what you may o...its my blog and am celebrity, queen, princess and king here!! :) Enjoy:

Life and Me: Tell us a little about yourself

Nonye: hmmm well there's not much to me, am not your girl next door but we're very alike in a lot of ways....I care less about a lot of things people care about and I mix up very easily (after carefully choosing out the right crowd). I hate people who dont live life as it is - REAL. You gotta tell yourself the truth at all times. I look like an extrovert but am really your stay home, eat cookies and watch movies kinda gurl.

Life and Me: What inspired you to start blogging?

Nonye: I'd say I needed somewhere to put down my thoughts without worrying about privacy. For some very strange reasons I feel safer writing on my blog than on facebook or even twitter.

Life and Me: What do you do when not blogging?

Nonye: I have a day job with an advertising agency which I ~~enjoy~~ but basically I read stuffs on the net and watch movies when not blogging or just hang around friends and chat away!

Life and Me: You recently got married, how does that feel?

Nonye: It feels like living in the same house with my boyfriend with the obligation to cook and clean, and the legal right to say who and who visits

Life and Me: Why would you dump a guy?

Nonye: No.1 Lack of Vision!! once am not sure where a guy's headed in life, I drop him. No.2 Akagum: Nonyelum would never date a stingy man for half a second (btw I have the gift of spotting them), N0.3 Poise or what you'd call swag....he must be able to carry himself well in both speech and appearance and OFCOURSE he must acknowledge God!

Life and Me: How do you keep fit?

Nonye: I hardly work out (ok maybe I do- on an orthopedic mattress *wink*) but I try to eat lots of fruits and vegies...still learning to drink water.

Life and Me: Any beauty regimen?

Nonye: Scrub, wash and cleanse....and my face is good.

Life and Me: Whats your single most priced item?

Nonye: errrrrr....I cant really say but my BCBG shoes would be one of them cos I typically wont spend so much on a pair...then my cream and brown handbag ( a gift from my aunt)

BCBG Shoes

"Made in Paradise" bag

Life and Me: What are your fashion musthaves?

Nonye: SHOES!!!!!!!!!! and then Mascara!

Life and Me: Your most precious item?

Nonye: oh! would be my Marc Ecko wristwatch from my sister in-law

Marc Ecko Wristwatch

Life and Me: Cheapest best buy

Nonye: My Qupid shoes! well they are not necessarily cheap but given that I consider them as hot as your Christian Louboutin and Giuseppe pumps, 7k is definitely a good deal!
em em but the cheapest cheapest cheapest item I have is something I got for N200! and I wont say what! LOL.....no no not my frames wrong! :)

Qupid Pumps

Life and Me: What kind of music do you love?

Nonye: Gospel and RNB

Life and Me: Fav. food and hang out?

Nonye: Nkwobi, Isiewu and Point and Kill! - I love to hang out at Stadium Surulere or Giwa Barracks Falaomo!

Life and Me: What are your plans for the nearest future

Nonye: Make babies and roll out FabShoeRack..very very soon! watch out!

Life and Me: Thank you Nonye

Nonye: Thank you!

*Note* Pls forgive my vanity but you see, I cant afford lots of designer stuffs so when I manage to get one (bought or dashed) I gats to make noise nah! oh!! sorrrry! no item here is really a designer anything..mcheewwww!

Repost - Love Fantasies VS Realities

2011-03-03T03:08:00.000-08:00

This was a post I put up in August 2010 which I just read again and thought I should repost.

Enjoy!

Love Fantasies VS Realities

I would say I started 'fantasizing' at a rather early age, way way before I got in my teens. I would walk down the beach with my hubby and the kids splash around then we would go home where Monica would cook while we watch TVs etc....Fire! To paint a clearer picture of my disappointment at the crumble of my fantasies , i'll put each dream beside its 'replica' in reality. LOL

	FANTASY	REALITY
1.	He would buy me heaven; I don’t have to work hard for a damn thing. Car on my bday, weekend trip to Seychelles, Giuseppe Zanotti shoes.	Sure am gonna take you on that trip, after all you’re my queen but for now Dubai would do.Baby you gotta take care of your BB subscription while I think of raising money for the wedding. And hey stop by shoprite and pick up your toiletries…you work don’t you?? Oh I want to make your bday special too but please make do with this lovely Coco Channel bag, that’s all I can afford for now
2.	He would never let me stand in the sun waiting for a cab, he would pick me up or send his driver….am too precious awwwww!	Ok sweetheart, our flight leaves in 30mins and we’re stuck in traffic, we need to at least check in. And since you’ve not perfected your driving, I wont let you drive this mad route so pls you have to get on a…….. (you guessed right) and check us in while I figure out a shorter route
3.	Monica would do the cooking and cleaning, and on days we don’t feel like her food, there are lots of thai restaurants out there	Ehen madam, when did you say you’re coming over to make the onugbu soup? my stew is finished, you know my colleagues share my lunch. (Thank goodness my mother forcefully taught me how to cook!)….
4.	(The ultimate one!)We would never quarrel	We didn’t speak for two whole days….our phones were very on!
5.	He would be super rich, never broke! Unlike daddy who would strike out items on my list, he would buy everything for my kids and double!	In Nigeria???? When he’s not a senator?? Nne some of your needs would wait till end of the month o!

My Interview Coming Up Soon!!!

2011-03-01T07:21:00.000-08:00

So since no magazines, websites, TV or radio stations think am celebrity enough to interview me, I figured I might as well make me a celeb and interview myself! So come Monday March 8, I will be posting a detailed interview of me by me! Featuring photos of my most favorite item, cheap, fabulous and expensive stuffs...wareva! Vain?? na you sabi!

Watch This Space!

Oscar Special

2011-03-01T04:16:00.000-08:00

enjoy!

WINNERS

Best Picture: The King's Speech
Actor in a Leading Role: Colin Firth, The King's Speech
Actress in a Leading Role: Natalie Portman, Black Swan

Actor in a Supporting Role: Christian Bale, The Fighter
Actress in a Supporting Role: Melissa Leo, The Fighter
Director: Tom Hooper, The King's SpeechOriginal Screenplay: David Seidler, The King's Speech
Adapted Screenplay: Aaron Sorkin, The Social Network
Animated Feature Film: Toy Story 3
Foreign-Language Film: In a Better World (Denmark)
Documentary Feature: Inside Job
Art Direction: Alice in Wonderland
Cinematography: Inception
Film Editing: The Social Network
Costume Design: Alice in Wonderland
Original Song: "We Belong Together" (Toy Story 3), music and lyrics by Randy NewmanOriginal Score: Trent Reznor and Atticus Ross, The Social Network
Animated Short: The Lost Thing
Documentary Short: Strangers No More
Live Action Short: God of Love
Makeup: The Wolfman
Sound Editing: Inception
Sound Mixing: Inception
Visual Effects: Inception

FASHION OLOPA

Best Dressed

Sandra Bullock

Mila Kunis

I totally dig these two ladies' style! Chic and Effortless!

Worst Dressed

Florence Welch ( dont get this her outfit at all)

My Worst Valentine!

2011-02-14T02:06:00.005-08:00

My friend Lala Dee put up something funny on Facebook. She said “Ladies if your man tells you he’s going on an assignment this valentine period, please believe him. He really does have an assignment, to spend Val with his wife or fiancée.” This reminded me of 2005 valentine in my final year.

I had just returned to school from my long weekend visit to my boyfriend’s in Port Harcourt. I was the envy of my friends who were dating students while I had a working class ‘serious’ boyfriend. Well, they probably should’ve been thanking God for themselves, not me.

Before I left for school, boyfriend and I had made plans for valentine which was in two weeks. He was either coming to pick me or I would find my way to Port Harcourt – again. Two long weeks passed and it was finally two days to valentine and boyfriend wasn’t making any tangible plans. Finally we agreed that I would come the next day but when it was time to leave for the bus park, his number was unreachable. After several trials, I got through and he said he had to travel immediately to Bonny! So? Val was off! I couldn’t believe it; I cried my balls out but tried to hang on to his promise of coming to see me the following week.

Meanwhile my friends were all off to their boyfriends’ hostel, lodge or where ever Val was happening for them. I was the ONLY one in the whole of my lodge. I tried to make myself happy, so I set off to visit a few male friends. I got to Izee’s and I was clearly not welcome – his babe was there. I didn’t know he was dating! Well I was sure Ben would be happy to receive me as he’d been begging me to come around, but I was wrong! He didn’t even let me in; he stopped me right at the door and said his babe had come all the way from Lagos to Awka to spend valentine with him!

I cried one last time and headed straight to my aunt’s place, bought cooked groundnuts on the way, met only grandma at home, ate valentine groundnuts with her and gisted away.

You guessed right, boyfriend never came until I graduated! And today valentine means absolutely nothing ‘man and woman’ to me. It’s a day to spend time with your loved ones and give some alms. So today, off to Obanikoro Bridge I go, to give those beggars some puff puff or anything else I find on my way...maybe groundnuts! Happy valentine to all celebrants! To the rest of us, good luck at meeting Monday targets!

7 Random Things About Me!

2011-01-31T05:07:00.000-08:00

1. I cry a lot, am not half as tough as I look or act

2. I'm shy, was almost timid as a child even though I have the award of the funniest kid in the entire Anike's family.

3. I pray before cooking....thats how I learnt how to cook most dishes

4. I cant swim.

5. I'm a hopeless romantic

6. I do a LOT of freaky things (sorry I wont mention!...and u can never guess it right)

7. If I can bribe my way into heaven, I would! I desperately want to see this God after I'm done playing out this script here ( thats in abt 70 yrs time o)

Well done Chief Justice!

2011-01-28T00:00:00.001-08:00

Let me state clearly that I DO NOT SUPPORT freaky woman to woman (man -man/animals) touches...don't caress my face, don't touch ma boobies not even wit a 50,000yards pole (how many football fields is that?...wareva!) So am all for enjoyin the heaven-sent-pleasure within the appropriate and permitted context. BUT these views don't make me better than those who don't share them! Let's get spiritual: bible says "suffer not a witch to live" so we all go Kill the witch! Kill the witch!! Kill the witch!!! Same bible says "the sin of rebellion is worse than witchcraft". Now, according to wordnetweb Rebellion is refusal to accept some authority or code or convention...which means you and I have in some way been rebellious, if not for traffic lights,in our offices or even worse. What shd be done to us then? Bury us?! Bury us?!! Bury us?!!! This doesn't happen. So who are we to judge and condemn others when our case might be worse? Kill a man cos he's gay? Lust and Lies only differ in degree but they are both sin!

Hate the gays, criticize the act, reject the bills to legalize their marriage, just DON'T MURDER THEM!! You are not God!

In memory of David Kato, stoned to death in Uganda on Wednesday Jan.26, 2011.

THANK YOU! LOVE YOU ALL!!

2011-01-05T05:13:00.000-08:00

THANK YOU ALL WHO FOUND TIME TO DROP BY MY BLOG LAST YEAR, YOU'RE THE REASON I BLOG! THANKS FOR YOUR ENCOURAGEMENTS AND CONTRIBUTIONS!!

ONE WAY TO SUPPORT ME MORE WOULD BE TO DROP MORE COMMENTS, EITHER WITH YOUR GMAIL ACCOUNT OR AS ANONYMOUS WITH YOUR NAME AFTER YOUR COMMENTS. THANKS A BUNCH PEOPLE! HAPPY 2011!

Summary!

2011-01-05T05:08:00.000-08:00

2010 was a pleasant year, I achieved 95% of my set goals and I can only give it all to God! thumps up Father!!
In 2011 I hope to be a better person, ignore people's weaknesses more and focus on their strengths and the things that make them happy. I intend to be a way better christian and stick to water as the only liquid in my life(oh Lord I wish!!), so forget my name Rubis Chocolate Wine and you evil Smirnof, loose my number!

Ok ~~I know you Africans hate to read~~ so I'll try not to make this too long, below are highlights of a few events that wrapped up the year for me;

REGISTRY: my wedding dress got spoilt on that morning! I had to wear a regular dress to get married! my hubby thought it was unconventional and cool but he wore his suit!! imagine! why didnt he wear shorts so we could boldly say, hey we are not ur everyday couple! I was so frustrated, sister Ogb and my friend Iheanyi were at the registry already trying to get us a number and when they did, we werent there! they had to impersonate us and went ahead to fill some forms but got caught when it came to signatures.... it was soooo funny! Now that changed the day for me cos i couldnt stop laughing at both of them when we got there. It was a snappy ceremony and we had to give 'offerings' to workers there, who knew about this please?

AFTER WEDDING DINNER: this was simply a blast! MC AK did a great job and we had soooo much fun with family and a few close friends, it was a small but classic dinner, the food was right on time, tasty and plenty. Nuff said!

HONEYMOON: who remembers No.2 on my Christmas activity list last year? it was totally destroyed! ma grandma showed up on the morning we were traveling, my sisters kept going ' Chei Nonye you're wicked, how did u not time this thing na eh? now you want to go and spoil things for this young man', yeah yeah the damn old lady showed up much earlier than planned PERIOD! (got that?)...so I was in pain thru the flight and ofcourse it didn't stop till after 4days and then I got sick! em but Honeymoon isnt just for a period, its forever baby! and yes we weren't completely starved of each other, 'knowing' still happened!
I found Senegal beautiful especially the Goree island, unfortunately i couldnt take as much photos cos of my health.....

There you have it! sorry am not in my best writing moods now..... View photos below

The Registry Photos - Ikoyi Registry, Lagos

2011-01-04T14:51:00.000-08:00

Photos here:

Sealed baby!

He's sooo taken ladies!

Continue to 'read more'

Oge as witness 1

The orginal wedding dress that got spoilt!

Nnanna as witness 2

you too like kiss!

With Obi

L-R: Henry, Iheanyi, Oge, US, Ogb, Jay, Nnanna

And that ends it abi! I wont be posting photos of the church blessing or maybe I will, depends on my mood!

After Wedding Dinner Photos - YinYang Chinese Restaurant, VI

2011-01-04T14:02:00.000-08:00

The after wedding dinner held at YinYang VI. it was an intimate night out with close friends and family, I apologize to those who didnt get to come, including family! Pls forgive us, it wasnt intentional at all, we werent exactly part of the planning....... I couldnt upload all the pictures, they are so many many!
enjoy photos here


mwaaah luv!

more photos here: 'read more'

Moi, Henry, Bala, Amaka, Oge and Saudat

Adaobi Okoye

Oge Anike and Amaka Nwoko

Nnanna giving the toast

Mordi Ochi and Abaolu Daniyan

COUPLES

Iheanyi and Chika Onugha

Joel and Saudat Godfrey

Yeseed and Biola Aro-Lambo

Bobby and Zhane Okoinyan

Singles Continued...LOl


Henry and Bala

Ugo Onukwubiri (The man behind 1407!)


AK!

ma fab sistas! Ogb and Oge

Nnamdi Anike AKA father of the bride!

Honeymoon Photos - Dakar/Goree Island, Senegal

2011-01-04T12:34:00.000-08:00

Enjoy here photos of our honeymoon!

On our way!

In front of Farid Hotel
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Yes?! isnt that what honeymooners do??


Set to Faya! (go figure!)


Aboard the ferry to Goree Island

happy people!

The Island

analysis

free like a bird!

Ma cutie!

10 Things This Babe Will Be Doing This Season :)

2010-12-15T05:22:00.000-08:00

1. I'm gonna rest well well cos number TWO will surely sap enough energy

2. ehem, I'll know 'him' on another level! its very legal and holy now o! so yes I'll know him wellllllllllerrrrrrrr...(o bros be ready for energetic "knowing'') 4 rounds of 'knowings' per day straight!

3. Will tryout all my fancy menus....new dish everyday

4. Spend time with family and host a few on Christmas day

5. Honour all invitation!

6. Go on Honyemoon! chai!!! knowing continues.....:-)

7. Shop Shop Shop!!! O yes am travellin with just my handbag, will buy everything my money can exchange! still shop hunting!!

8. Explore, not sure what yet but i'll figure out when we get there

9. Party stone hard!

10. Reflect, make decisions, sieve out some friends (i'll definitely do this!)

@ZK Exhibition/Christmas Party

2010-12-13T07:46:00.000-08:00

It was def a beautiful event at Life House Victoria Island as the creative guys from one of the top 5 advertising agencies in Nigeria ZK Advertsing, took creativity to another level.... each person showcased their individual works in a relaxed atmosphere. Lots of fine wine and classy small chops accompanying...enjoy pictures below:

Me stepping in....rockin ma 1407 Tunic

Some of the artwork on display

More after the cut...

Fabulous Artwork by Emeka Ihejirika

Mind blowing Poetry by Ndukwe Onuoha

The creative guys!

Nnenna Onyewuchi - Creative Director ZK Advertising

Customized Tshirts

Kaliko - MD ZK Advertising and Ugoma of Zebra Living

Lamu of Glo and Guests

Ndukwe reciting his famous BOOM

Guests

Ayo of ZK

Toni Kan and Nnenna Onyewuchi

Emeka and a guest

Mow That Damn Lawn Baby!

2010-12-13T04:22:00.000-08:00

U know I just dont get it! whats the award for growing these ugly irky bushes??? arrrggghhh sooo gross biko! No no no! I've seen enough, I just had to write this post. I was at an exhibition/party yesterday and this gorgeously dressed chic stepped in, I was so loving her charisma and her dress was a ready sketch in my head waiting for Mr Philip my able tailor, I just kept staring and following her mannerisms and then I saw it! gosh, she lifted her arms to give the big hug and lagos cheek to cheek kiss when I saw the gory field, what?????!!!!!! No one told me Gillette had gone on strike! Veet had stopped producing? My God! what excuse did a beautiful lady like this have for not shaving? This is totally unsexy, uncool and unclean! Pls next time u hit shoprite, turn right to the toiletries section, grab u a hoe, shovel, shaving stick, whatever gets the forest out of sight and take the bushit down! Men inclusive! Thank YOU!

How it All Went Down on Nov 27,2010!

2010-12-10T06:25:00.000-08:00

Mr&Mrs Ndukwe Onuoha

Ok so the day started off really early for me, cleaning and putting finishing touches here and there. It got cloudy at about 10am and I almost freaked out, somehow my big sis Ogb knew for a fact that it wasnt goin to rain so she just assured me and went to sleep....meanwhile my dad was outside blasting in tongues and commanding the weather to behave, that sorta gave me some faith.....the next time I saw him, he was in the centre of the compound with hands lifted up, giving thanks for clouds that had now 'behaved'.

Back in the room, my phone didnt stop beeping, pings were coming in like mad, I was one hot babe with a hot line that day, the phone sef begin hot for hand! lol. Hubby was running late, time was fast running, visitors had started coming, I hadnt taken my bath, ewooo! it was crazy but joy was in the air! Finally, gengen, my boo walked in with friends all dressed in linen and george wrapper and the moment my heart saw him it stopped for a moment, boy he was looking sooooo fly! My grand aunt went to my sis and whispered "is that him in the carton colour linen?" she said yes and the woman nearly collapsed..."o mara mma nwoke o!'". Me I defied all the rules and kept peeping from my room.... I got dressed and was called up for the first greeting and my shy cap of many years climbed back on my head that I couldnt even look at my younger cousins. My mum inlaw was sitted beside my dad beaming with smiles and reminding me silently how happy my mum would be up in heaven! It had been a rough walk to this path but God promised me peace and security and we got it! The horses were ready for battle for safety came from the Lord!! The highlight of the day was when I was given the drink to look for my man, my sisters were making all sorts of comments behind me and I nearly spilled the drink while I was laughing.....and when I knelt to give him the drink he drank the first half and asked me what he should do with the rest, ajebo di m!

To wrap a loooong story up, it was a beautiful day, beautiful weekend and everyone got back safe! The happiest person present must have been my mum inlaw and she infected me with that joy! Ah I didnt talk about Grand Ma Inlaw! I'll do a special post for her, she's an amazing woman ageing gracefully and the funniest person I have encountered in my life....would def give Ali Baba a huge run for his bills!

To answer many questions, there's no formal formal white wedding, just registry and church blessing then afterwards a small reception, this would be before the end of the year and we run off to Honeymoon!!! where? wait till we get back!

mmmmmm just friends?

2010-11-19T06:34:00.000-08:00

Genevieve and Dbanj at Psquare's parry....

Photo Credits: Lindaikeji

....And wonder boi marries!!!

2010-11-19T04:43:00.000-08:00

Photos of Mike Ezuronye's wedding

They repped the industry well.....

Photo credit: stelladimokokorkus

Soup Of Day!

2010-11-19T02:54:00.000-08:00

Joseph Yobo and Wife

Love her shoes!!!!

Photo Credit: stelladimokokorkus

Apologies

2010-11-19T02:35:00.000-08:00

Its been a huge while! Sorry guys am preping for ma wedding.... you'll be the first to see exclusive photos!! Enjoy the bits am able to put together today! Love!

Five Deep Truth About Nonye Anike

2010-10-26T06:35:00.000-07:00

Ask me questions and I'll select 5 which I would answer over 5 days. One question per day, Nov 1 - 5 2010 (Mon - Friday). You can ask as anonymous.

Go!

Soup of Day!

2010-10-26T04:05:00.000-07:00

Kim and Ciara seen steppin out for lunch yesterday...love their outfits!

Nigeria @ 50 - Day 25 "HANG"

2010-10-25T00:28:00.000-07:00

Nigeria @ 50, Day 24 - Freaksho
htt p://redoje.blogspot.com/

May 11, 2003, my dad and I were busy in the kitchen, mixing, cutting, dicing and getting ready for my guests. It was my birthday. Mum had passed 7months earlier and would have been here doing the cooking had the doctors detected the hole in her heart and not assumed it was common bronchitis.

So in the bid to silence the painful emotions that thoughts of my last birthday with mum brought, I baked pans after pans of cake until dad made me stop. My sister who was supposed to help out had gone to Port Harcourt to write TOEFL and was to return that morning, but it was noon and no sign of her.

Back in PH, she was set to leave and my Aunty Imelda was giving her a message for my dad when someone knocked on the door, it was my aunt’s neighbour and she wanted to borrow her pressing iron. My aunt gave her the iron and started to narrate how the NEPA wire had cut and fallen on her flowers and no official had come to check it out; they continued the conversation and stepped outside to have a look. Just as my aunt pointed towards the flowers, her hands touched the wire and the current took hold of her. My sister and cousins managed to separate her from the wire which she had unconsciously held to her chest and rushed her to the hospital; the first hospital wouldn’t touch her without a police report and the second one didn’t have any medical expert present. In their desperation, they took her to a church where prayer warriors alike prayed all they could.......after about an hour my sweet and ever cheerful Aunty Imelda gave up. Since then, May 11 has ceased to be just a birthday to me.

Like I always say, the saddest thing about the change we cry out for in Nigeria is that many of us don’t believe it will come. But for me, regardless of the many precious things the negligence of our system has cost me, I will hang on to this almost shredded rope of hope that someday people will not die needless deaths and our country will be a safer place.

God Bless Nigeria!

N/B: my birthday rice turned out salty....and pls my daddy can cook o!

Nigeria @ 50, Day 26 - Tobenna

http://www.eyemuse.blogspot.com

Our girl is at it again!

2010-10-22T08:51:00.000-07:00

Ok I give up!

Let Them Walk!!

2010-10-21T04:58:00.000-07:00

Jan 2009 - I walked into GHartel looking really fab, heads turned and there were whispers around, some too loud above my head. Wow! it felt really good to be a Nigerian. I had heard how guys here thought Nigerian babes were fabulous dressers, and oh I tried to rep that!

So I finally meet this Mr. Near-Perfect, who was one of the managers, my friend who sent me to him had said he wont make a move on me if he was already with someone, he was that perfect! Anyways we chatted away, I gave him my passport details and CV,narrated my immigration plight with the sincere hope that their company would do something about my work permit. Apparently our guy was feeling your chic and so we headed off to Churcheez for lunch and there the game began. Dinner after dinner, movies after movies and we were a 'thing'. Finally I asked about his girl and he didnt lie but didnt totally tell the truth. Big deal! I just needed something to distract me frm my current situation...but alas I ended up feelin up this dude.I thought he was really cool and smart, you know had the complete package any woman would want.

Given our new bond/attachment, I became more curious as to the true state of things between him and ~~these~~ this girls in his life. He continued to 'post' me. I remember getting home one night and confronting my friend in anger, "Paa you told me Fordsran was a decent guy, i'm dealin with the same thing u said wont happen,I swear to you Paa u dont know this guy". Finally I decided I was done being played with, but guy wont let go so we kept patching it and I continued hurting. Every time this particular babe called him they wld speak in their language and I would just stare, and to the second girl I was just his Nigerian friend, infact my number was saved on his phone as "Nonye Naija" as against the "Sweethrt and Bhoney" used in saving the other two. I wept so hard one very early morning to the point I smashed my phone on the wall, that moment I knew a nut had unscrewed somewhere in my head and it was time to go. Immigration Discrimination Bullshit + Man Crappiness = GO HOME!

To cut a long story short, I called him to say I was leaving and he went cold, next thing he said 'u know what? lets start all over again', hmmm, let me not even try to explain my rage.Well I transferred my anger to God and began to question Him, what sort of set up was this? in the midst of what I considered a trying time, you let this guy who I thought was a comforter come into my life and complicate issues, God why? I cried and cried, and finally I was back in Lagos. Amazingly, in less than 2 days I was soooo over with the guy. I couldnt even understand what I had seen in him in the first place, and to think that I was already begining to consider a long term thing between us. Oh! did I mention I found out he was engaged to "Sweethrt"!

(Well its all thanks to Fordsran for messing up me otherwise I wouldnt hv met my blazing 'Customized Boo' and fiance, Endy.)

Oct. 2010 - Na so I dey facebook last week and I got a message from my friend which started with "Brace Yourself For This" ......it turned out my handsome,cool, smart and relationship hot mess ex boyfriend had defrauded his company and clients and had been fired, locked up in state CID, beaten and stripped of everything , includin his car, house etc....I couldnt believe it. This was the same man I thought was the best guy at his job, I mean I knew he had women issues but stealing kwa? I was shocked. This same man I cried and cried for, the one I considered "long term" thing with, the man on whose account I questioned God! At first I felt he must have been set up but they say he wasnt, he actually commited the fraud. Maka Chi eh! when people walk out of our lives we need to go to God and say THANK YOU FOR TAKING THIS ~~CURSE~~ AWAY FROM ME!

Kim Kardashian Hits 30

2010-10-21T03:27:00.000-07:00

Happy Birthday Babe!!

JLO's ''Unphotoshopped" wardrobe hazards

2010-10-19T06:39:00.000-07:00

Awwww darling!!

Soup Of Day!

2010-10-19T05:20:00.000-07:00

Here's to the bruvas! :)

and its our guy Mark Wright!

Let It Go!

2010-10-19T05:04:00.000-07:00

Am sorrry bloghearts, been busy with so many things at the same time, promise not to be away for too long again. Below is an xcerpt from TD Jakes' message and I thought I shd share. Enjoy!

Let it go!
Some people can walk out of your life but let them go!
Its not that they are bad people, it just means their part in your story is over.
Dont beg them to stay, if the relationship is dead, stop trying to ressurect it
And dont try to talk another into staying, calling, or loving you, Let it go!

If you're holding on to a job that no longer meets your need, let it go!
if you're in an abusive relationship, let it go!
If you're hanging on to past hurts, you need to let it go!
If you're holding on to something that God has consistently asked of you, let it go!

Learn to say goodbye and keep moving ( Nonye Anike)

This is incomplete, I just shared the lines I remember

Sharon Stone @ 52!

2010-10-19T03:40:00.000-07:00

Now this is what am talkin about!!! Remember the post about mad Janice Dickinson? Oh please compare these two women and tell me you aint thoroughly loving up Sharon!

Btw thats a pack of cigarette stuck down her region! (dnt ask me what i think about it)

Oluronbi: The Musical

2010-10-05T08:10:00.000-07:00

You gotta love naija theatre arts! I've never been into stage plays let alone musical ones but i was def.hooked after seeing this. Enjoy photos below:

Total Woman!

2010-10-05T07:16:00.000-07:00

I just had to put this up! am soooo in love with this look! Hot!

Soup of Day!

2010-10-05T07:06:00.000-07:00

Serena Williams...dont you just love?!

2010-09-30T07:45:00.001-07:00

'Tis been 50years and the road has been quite long, join us as we celebrate Nigeria's Golden Age at oluSimeon www.simeoneomobaba.blogspot.com on 1st October, 2010

Woman Know Thy Worth.....

2010-09-24T06:34:00.000-07:00

I always say that I love being a woman, it feels good to know that we're looked up to for direction by men. A married man is treated with more respect than the unmarried one....reason is simple; his woman.

Well am not discussing marriage now, I just wanna talk to a certain set of single women. How is it that a woman doesnt know when a man just wants to lay her? Its true that there are slimy men but where are the women with discerning minds? It doesnt take series of women's seminar to learn the ways of a hit and run man, it only takes one thing;YOU! Babe the way you carry your market will determine who comes to shop chikena! The excuse we hear is that someone hurt you real bad and u lost ur self esteem so much that you fall for anything...If a relationship doesnt work out, c'mon pick up urself, shake it off and keep living. Unfortunately some ladies dont even know what it means to be treated right by a man, well if you're one, why dont you start by askin urself if the man treats u as good as u treat urself or even better..... I feel really degraded as a woman when i see women settle for less for fear of being alone. How dare a man ask you to find your way to his house in the rain while he chills???? so freaking what he's gonna pay the cab man, at 11pm??! why should you be the one to take that risk? why not him? What if you're robbed, raped etc? will 1,500 for cab heal the wounds? Pls women, we carry the world's most precious treasure in between our legs, and its not for saraka! Stop distributing ur body.....if you make urself a carpet even a dog will walk over!

10 Commandments of The Red Carpet

2010-09-23T07:18:00.000-07:00

10 Commandments of Red Carpet

Break these rules and be forever banished from the enviable red carpet…..
1. Thou must know the name of thine outfit designer ( even if its a roadside tailor, give him a name!)
2. Thou shall not call out to paparazzi. if they dont notice you, fret not for there will be more events, try again
3. If ye were rough as a child please hide thine scars! Short dresses are not for thee
4. Thou must not wear heels that require special miracle to get thee moving
5. Drop thou not thine gum wrap on the red carpet for the ground thou standeth is sacred
6. Shhhhhh thou shall not shout! tone down thine voice, behave thou prim and proper
7. Thou shalt not gawk when thine eyes behold Genevieve and Dbanj
8. Should there be a feasting table, thou must show mercy to the cocktail for it is not thine last supper
9. Thou must discreetly and totally cover all that thine heart seeketh to hide for the cameras have grown multiple lens….
10. Resist thou the temptation to dress like Lady Gaga!

Couple Kill Themselves After Meeting on website

2010-09-23T05:32:00.000-07:00

Joanne Lee and truck driver Steve Lumb were found dead in a Vauxhall Astra parked alongside an area of overgrown wasteland on an industrial estate on Monday. They had gassed themselves after meeting just hours earlier after making contact on the internet.
It has emerged that Miss Lee, who used the user name Heaven's Little Girl, received advice and encouragement on internet forums in the days leading up to her death.
Cyber 'friends' had given her tips on how to successfully kill herself and expressed their sorrow that she had failed to end her life on previous suicide attempts.
Miss Lee, 34, had written: 'I haven’t the strength to do this alone. I have all the ingredients and want to do it ASAP.
'You should... be willing to pick me up when it is time to (kill myself).
'If you are "very" serious, please email me'.
Answering the 'advert' Mr Lumb, 35, then drove 200 miles to Braintree, Essex, and shortly after the pair were dead.

couple were found dead in the car which oozed of lethal gas...

Lady Gaga's Red Meat Outfit at MTV Music Video Awards

2010-09-14T06:46:00.000-07:00

Madness at 24 is disheartening!!

Oprah Takes 300 Studio Audience to Australia to Mark The Begining of Her Final Season!

2010-09-14T03:25:00.000-07:00

Oprah promised a pleasant surprise to mark the premiere of the 25th and final season of her show. The surprise was way more than we thought! 300 studio audience present were given an 8 day trip to Sydney Australia! Oh and John Travolta will be flying the plane..my my my..

Chei! Oprah biko record one episode in Lagos naa!!

The Lucky Audience - why am I not in this pic? sob sob!!!

so so so so....

2010-09-13T08:25:00.000-07:00

Ah God is my strength o!

Now I understnd why my mum always smiled and said 'cool down' everytime I talked excitedly about getting married. I remember my first post on this blog, i wrote about getting to meet the inlaws..... well my turn don come, go. So I finally met the other part of his family after days and months of freaking out and i realized i was scared of NOTHING! i had so much fun there, first was savouring a plate of fufu (which i havent eaten more than 3x in my entire life) and there was the glorious chicken pepper soup...hmm and the very funny grandma with her flawless english, i certainly had a beautiful time there BUT.... , the part of having to put up some kain kain berra person shows didnt come too easy...and i've concluded that the 'meet the ~~fockers~~ parents syndrome' is with us to stay. All in all,meeting his people "officially" was way easier than the main introduction.

When the ultimate question was thrown at me, I burst out in laughter, I kept actin like one silly little girl while my uncles sat smiling at me with the drink in hand. "Nonye, this young man has brought us drink, can you please tell us what this is about and should we proceed to accept the drink?" na so i tear laugh again o, i probably thought this was one of those Nigerian movies, and my fine boi dude was just staring at me like 'is this girl alright'. Well I responded with "it is what it is"..(thank goodness my dad wasnt there, he wld've embarrased the living heavens out of me). Back in his room, boo looks at me and says 'so we're doing this for real?' and i respond 'u're stuck with this bad gurl for life' and he says 'u mean the twins up there' we laugh and share a kiss and am off to my room thinkin in my head 'surely as the Lord lives, there aint no going back!"

Bottom line ; ONE DAY E GO BE YOUR TURN! :)

Soup of Day!

2010-09-06T08:54:00.000-07:00

Anne Hathaway!

All for "Sanctification"

2010-09-02T08:01:00.000-07:00

Sarah Cassidy is a senior female figure in Opus Dei, one of the most controversial forces in the Roman Catholic church. Single and celibate — and determined to remain so, doent drink and smoke, totally abhors drugs. Each night she fastens a wire chain, known as a cilice, around her upper thigh to suppress her desires and atone for her sins. The device has sharp prongs that dig into the skin and flesh causing much pain.

The 'barbed wire"!

Na wa o, someone who is celibate, doesnt drink and smoke, wetin again she wan atone for? So what did Christ come to do? act drama on earth and go back to heaven?? hmmmm!

Diary Highlights

2010-08-30T06:33:00.000-07:00

Be careful what you dream and wish for, you might just get them.

My friend and brother got married over the weekend and just as i was steppin out of the wedding arena, i had a quick flashbackof last year at about this time.

I had gone on a trip with him and a group of his friends for a mutual friend's weddin as well as his introduction, what was supposed to be a beautiful trip went sour for me when tongues started wagging. The most pathetic part was that i had just walked out of a relationship and everyone on that trip had a partner except a married friend of ours who came without his wife. Apparently some of the guys didnt believe that there was nothin between my friend and I so they talked behind my back and to his face. I would retire to the hotel and cry my eyes out. Our married friend became my 'rock', he would keep me company when others got occupied with their other halves,tell all kinds of stories to make me laugh, ( those stories havent stopped amusing me), he even gave me strategies on how to get on with life and ultimately find a man. To cut a very very long story short, I said to myself that by the time my friend ( who i accompanied on the trip) would be set to marry in 2010, I wld've been engaged or I'll buy me an engagement ring if that wld prove anything. I told God and forgot about it. God heard that prayer. My friend got married, and my fiance was one of his groom's men. Testimony? YES! Morale? if you can see it, you can have it...... Happy married life to my big brother and friend indeed, thank you to my other big brother/married friend for givin me the strength to enjoy the rest of that trip.

....and the winner is Miss Mexico!

2010-08-25T09:36:00.000-07:00

Miss Mexico wears the Miss Universe 2010 crown!

KELIZA Engaged!!!! Woohoo!!!

2010-08-25T01:07:00.000-07:00

You remember the 'never was' couple of BBA 4 Revolution right?? Kevin and Elizabeth! well they are officially engaged after all Elizabeth's shakara! Kevin proposed on stage in Abuja following their performance together of one of his tracks.....AM HAPPY FOR THEM JO!

African Representatives at the Miss Universe 2010 - WHO'S THE HOTTEST?? Miss Nigeria's dress is a mess!

2010-08-24T05:21:00.000-07:00

Only Miss South Africa made first 15, finals will be held tonight in Nevada United States.....

Stop Abortion!

2010-08-17T07:05:00.000-07:00

2011 Model ......

2010-08-17T06:02:00.000-07:00

A moving vehicle in Lagos! hmmmm words fail me.......

Legalise heroin and cocaine to cut crime and improve health, top doctor says

2010-08-17T03:35:00.000-07:00

Personal drug use should be legalised to cut crime and improve health, a top doctor has said.
Professor Sir Ian Gilmore, the outgoing president of the Royal College of Physicians, suggested that relaxing the law on possessing substances such as heroin, cocaine and cannabis would not increase the number of addicts.
This could save vast amounts of taxpayers' money, he suggests.

......FOR REAL????????

Ewwwwww Kimmy!!

2010-08-13T08:49:00.000-07:00

Kim Kardashian always rocks it but this time? she wrecked it!

Soup of Day!

2010-08-13T03:28:00.000-07:00

Halle rocks the look on the september edition of vogue. I totally love love!

......our "IJE"

2010-08-13T03:23:00.000-07:00

Amebos!!! LOL ........So we met at my friend's place back in the east sometime in 2003 and they were dating at the time,he was also a member of a fellowship my big sister took me to and was friends with her. I didnt particularly like him cos i thought he was snobbish, you know i try to talk to dude and though he wld talk back he wouldnt as much as look at my face. Well all the inyanga didnt stop me from occassionally borrowing his phone to call my boyfriend who lived outside town. So so so, our first major rapport was when my friend asked me to go keep him company in his house as she had to be somewhere. The whole arrangement felt really awkward but I rolled with it regardless. I dont quite remember what we talked about that day but he at least looked at my face LOL, i was more relaxed with him. Well we watched movies till my friend came back, * i think he fixed something for me to eat, not sure now what it was but there were eggs involved* LOL (amazingly, my dearly beloved dude does not remember me ever being to his house!!)

His relationship wit my friend ended and i never saw or heard from him again until October 2009.
I was sitting on my desk at work when he walked in. and surprisingly my sister and I had talked about him the week before. He remembered my face but not my name,anyways we hugged and chatted briefly before he left. Two days later, his cousin who was my colleague and who he had come to see told me the dude wanted us to hang out which we did and the rest is history!

The Proposal : We were sitting together and he sent me BB chats! First one read; I LOVE YOU and The second one: WILL YOU MARRY ME? well I replied and there was the ring smiling beside me on the bed......

Anymore questions??? LOL

*Let me answer ur first question before u ask* - my friend is happily married with two kids and has absolutely nothing against our relationship...

Paris Hilton Slammed £22million Lawsuit For Wearing a Wrong Weave!

2010-08-13T02:13:00.000-07:00

Mad 'Hair-ess!" signed a deal with Hair Tech to promote their brand only to be seen wearing hair from a rival company. I pray same thing doesnt happen to my dear Linda Ikeji (from Zabel Hair to Sparkle Hair)....hmmmmm I no dey o! LOL

Didnt know this about my girl Latifah! sob! sob!!sob!!

2010-08-10T04:46:00.000-07:00

Very stale gist but not to me mehn!

For me or Him?

2010-08-10T04:34:00.000-07:00

Pls pls pls, dont tell me how I need to work my ass out lookin good while the man sits there getting fat! We've heard soooooo many times how women let themselves loose when they get married and stop caring about their appearances but seriously how many of such women do we have in this age and time? Sisters are getting wise jo! (although not all) See these fine fine married women in Lagos, do they not look hot?? and pls its not just for their husbands! (i think) one has gotta take care of his/her health mehn! I work out cos i want to trim a few, granted!, but also cos i need my heart pumping weller, I need to live long for my loved ones.

I think we've graduated from the age of working out and keepin in shape just because of a man,it should be more cos we need to burn these high carb foods we eat in Africa! No doubt a woman should keep her figure, i mean you want to keep his eyes on you for as long as you wish to be with him but that shouldnt be the ultimate reason to keep fit. Ok assuming that were the only reason, why are women the only ones expected to do the 'maintaining figure',how many men actually gym cos of their wives? oh its a man's world! well hear this first hand, women have as much capacity as men have to cheat!

Bottom line, work out to keep fit and healthy first, in the end you'll be doing it for him/her.

Love Fantasies VS Realities

2010-08-06T09:17:00.000-07:00

	FANTASY	REALITY
1.	He would buy me heaven; I don’t have to work hard for a damn thing. Car on my bday, weekend trip to Seychelles, Giuseppe Zanotti shoes.	Sure am gonna take you on that trip, after all you’re my queen but for now Dubai would do.Baby you gotta take care of your BB subscription while I think of raising money for the wedding. And hey stop by shoprite and pick up your toiletries…you work don’t you?? Oh I want to make your bday special too but please make do with this lovely Coco Channel bag, that’s all I can afford for now
2.	He would never let me stand in the sun waiting for a cab, he would pick me up or send his driver….am too precious awwwww!	Ok sweetheart, our flight leaves in 30mins and we’re stuck in traffic, we need to at least check in. And since you’ve not perfected your driving, I wont let you drive this mad route so pls you have to get on a…….. (you guessed right) and check us in while I figure out a shorter route
3.	Monica would do the cooking and cleaning, and on days we don’t feel like her food, there are lots of thai restaurants out there	Ehen madam, when did you say you’re coming over to make the onugbu soup? my stew is finished, you know my colleagues share my lunch. (Thank goodness my mother forcefully taught me how to cook!)….
4.	(The ultimate one!)We would never quarrel	We didn’t speak for two whole days….our phones were very on!
5.	He would be super rich, never broke! Unlike daddy who would strike out items on my list, he would buy everything for my kids and double!	In Nigeria???? When he’s not a senator?? Nne some of your needs would wait till end of the month o!

The list is simply endless! Am yet to wake up to many more realities for sure.......

2010-08-06T09:12:00.000-07:00

Where has she gone to again??

2010-08-06T06:25:00.000-07:00

Sorry darlings, I have once again broken the promise not to be away for too long, I'm really sorry.

Ok so I've had quite a few goin on, I went for Tinsel audition which had nearly 5000 fly and wannabe young (an old....my friend actually called one Mummy) folks around. It wasnt a bad outing, i ran into old friend and secondary school corner mate, Chidinma Okereke, we had lotsa catching up to do and jeez she kept cracking me up silly!! that girl is ~~a clown~~ funny! The audition was okay, just that for the first time in my life i experienced the '' didnt you just fool yourself'' feeling. I just couldnt stop beating myself, ask me why? one chic made a face....that was it! I let this girl make me feel bad, but then again i asked myself ,how many times have i made anyone feel bad with a seemingly harmless expression? guilty me. Anyways enough of Tinsel. I've also had a maaaad time these past few days bonding with family; my sisters, brother, boo, papa I love them to bits!!! two nights ago at Glover Court....unforgetable! lafta, strokes, suya, drinks, chicken...cant life be like that everyday??

Nuff blabs, next story...

bloggless day!

2010-08-03T09:10:00.000-07:00

Oh the 'stress' of blogging, one must have something to write, else they'll say she don tire!

Ok so i have very mixed feelings today. The good part: just got me a new Debenhams Collection bag (thanks to Sis. Tomori), its the next best thing since my Aldo wristwatch, and yeah am expecting some german designer bags in few days too *wink*..... wait o before u think am vain, na for grave i go carry Fendi? Abi did Kim Kardashian fall from heaven? i be babe too na LOL. Second good thing: today is my gurl's bday and am sooo thankful to God for how far He has brought her, hearty cheers to Obo Henshaw! Now the bad part: someone got me really pissed, so pissed it affected my good parts LOL Blah blah blah! basically i have nothing to say.

Coming up next : Love Fantasies VS Realities.....U dont wanna miss this!

Gring !gring !!gring!!! and the bells rang.....

2010-08-02T07:07:00.000-07:00

Alicia and Swiss Beatz (TOP) seal the deal! wedding at an island in Corsica France .....me i think Alicia deserves berra o! the guy ways no pure sam sam!

Former first daughter Chelsea Clinton weds Marc Mezvinsky in New York ...ok so I've confirmed the wedding dress was made by Vera Wang just like Alicia's. Na una biko! carry go! And your marriage better last o! I mean with all that money shelled out

*both weddings held over the weekend*

Omotola releases new video - Missing You, check out the hot photos!

2010-07-30T09:12:00.000-07:00

Hot yeah!

Hmmm Naija certainly learnt extravagancy from somewhere.....

2010-07-28T04:13:00.000-07:00

I dont know whether to say its okay for Bill and Hill to spend so much on their ONLY daughter or....well whatever we think, na we sabi (really).
Chelsea and Marc would be wedding on saturday and here's the budget:

Tents - £400,000
Tables - £70,000
Stationery (Invites/Programmes/Menu) - £32,000Flowers (Casablanca Lilies) - £320,000
Rings - £7,000
Food - £100,000
Transportation of guests - £320,000
Rehearsal Dinner -£16,000Wedding Dress - £16,000 (not sure yet if its Vera Wang or Oscar De La Renta)
Bride's Jewelry - £160,000
Cake -£7,000
Security - £130,000
Guests are even being treated to porcelain portable toilets that flush, play music and have hot running water.Ha! no be DMT matter o!!!

How NOT to behave at 55!

2010-07-28T03:23:00.000-07:00

Janice Dickinson's body to me is not half as disturbing as her overly repulsive personality! Oh I hear she's on celebrity rehab show...Jeez that! This woman has 2 kids and is 55, took this shot for the new issue of Close Magazine...photo reminds me of a ~~tired piece of rag~~ obalende's ashies.....

Soup of Day!

2010-07-27T06:00:00.000-07:00

Official face of MUD - love the fierce look!

The Return.....

2010-07-27T03:23:00.000-07:00

I woke up this morning feeling like 'look i dont care anymore' , I mean whatever happens, happens right? There's been so much tension, anxiety, expectations around me recently and today I decided TO HELL WITH THEM! I'm not worrying about anything anymore, If I have no control over them then God does and if He wont work them out the way I expect, let no one try please! I would only have it God's way or no other.

Ok so in my usual morning routine, I got on facebook to see whose relationship status has changed and who ate what last night, and I saw a note by my friend and big sis Ezinne Oriaku (Nee Onwuchekwa). I pondered on the words as I read them, with tears in my eyes I begun to apologize to God for how much I've neglected Him. It occured to me that we have lost the heaven consciousness, what happened? did someone tell us we would be here forever? what exactly caused this relaxation in our attitudes?? I cannot quite answer for many but I can say that for me, I got carried away. Prayers answered, wishes that came true, all put together made me forget that I would be here but for a while and after that its Heaven or Hell....hmmm scary! But then as I read Ezy's note on the return of Christ, there was a certain feeling I know to be joy, I got more and more excited just thinking about it, Jesus is coming back, my sweetheart is coming back, my truest friend, brother and confidante is coming back! I wanna see Him, I dont wanna die before He comes, I wanna be caught up in the heavens with him, Oh Lord, help me to do your will!!

Who wants Elvis Presley's piano?

2010-07-26T06:17:00.000-07:00

Elvis Presley's beloved white grand piano could sell for £1million when it goes under the hammer next month.
It is just one item in a phenomenal haul of the King's possessions due to be auctioned in August

Mental Maturity....

2010-07-26T04:26:00.000-07:00

The word came into my head a few moments ago as I chatted with my friend and thought about some events in the last couple of months relating to marriage. Maturity is not in the age oh! no way! I have seen grown big ~~kids~~ adults, and i wonder at what point you can truly say someone is mature.

I'm not married yet and so I'm not very much in the best position to talk about marriage but having watched my own parents grow to the point they did, i dare say that mental maturity is the first height to attain before you think of settling down. Your spouse will always attract attention, some of which he/she may actually enjoy, but that doesnt mean they love you less or want to be with you less.Please let your partner feel single even though they are married to you, nobody wants to loose their lives and total being in marriage. I dont want to be Tayo in marriage, I still want to be Nonye, only a better version. You wonder why people back out last minute, this is it!

Ability to accept your spouse the way they are and the people around them is MENTAL MATURITY....no matter how bad your spouse's family and friends are, let him/her be the one to do the negative speaking not YOU! if u hate them so much to speak anything positive then please dont say anything at all...Mental Maturity

This is not one of my 'articles' so dont ciriticize my writing...am more like just talking

Soup of Day!

2010-07-23T08:00:00.000-07:00

Am totally loving this!